thank you so much for the advice .....especially sumorani and aahmed who gave their personal experiences so I can relate .....and of course thanks everyone else!!
yes I realized as long as I know what I want and remain to be happy people's mouths will eventually shut up about the issue......even had a gori larki indirectly say weird things because to her its odd that i'm getting married this early but anyhow I have learned to ignore what others are saying on this matter because in the end this is what I want and its what I have been thinking about for the past 3 years
mods can we close this thread?