Observed that women of the house normally eat after the men. As per bollywood depiction of Hindu families, patni consider it her dharam to eat after pati parmeshwar.
In rular Sindh, men walk infront of the ladies of their family, wherever they go.
So is ‘Laides First’ not the part of our culture?
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Boy, this reminds of the incident (yes I'd call that incident) that happened to me at one Iftari. The lady of the house held these antiquated views and served men first while women contented themselves with a kajoor & a few pakoray. By the time men were done and prayers were said, it was like two hours since Iftari and everything was cold and her logistics sucked so when my turn came to finally eat, I'd lost my appetite.
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Did you thank her for allowing you to have khajoor and few pakoray alogwith the men. :D
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Did you thank her for allowing you to have khajoor and few pakoray alogwith the men. :D
Along with men? I dont eat unhalal stuff.
Yes I thanked her plenty for my making my stomach growl for hours until it gave up.
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lols. I was just thinking that one can interpret alongwith in this sense :D I meant simultaneously with men.
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Eating with men makes food unhalal!
lol
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in vidarbhawhile traveling lot of hindu villager men carry child while women carry luggage
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But then why women consider it their dharam to eat bacha kucha of men?
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Oyi shabashi… Here in lower class, women work as Masi and men enjoy their life watching movies in hotels on a cup of tea 
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Well sad to say yahan ladies ko respect Kahan di jatee hai,
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On the other side, this is the way women try to make their men feel respected. :(
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We eat together 
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At iftari:bummer:
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It is because women generally rush from kitchen to dining place and then chat for hours while eating, and termed it as pehle aap for men
Another drama by women, they never it Bacha khucha, I don’t remember any women eating bacha kucha, they eat as good as men of the house do but just to show how good and gracious they are, they say “Hum to aap ka bacha khucha khaatein hain:D”
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lols. Thanks for the inside information.
But I also observed that boys are given lion's share in everything. be it fruit of new season or share in property. Girls / women are either ignored or given less priority.
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lols. Thanks for the inside information.
But I also observed that boys are given lion's share in everything. be it fruit of new season or share in property. Girls / women are either ignored or given less priority.
Again, it depends on community, In jats what you are saying is true, and personally I will never demand any share in property because that would disrupt relation with brother.
In kashmiri pandits, Daughter of the house, the devi, has first right, none of the eatables that come out of kitchen are eaten before her touching it:)
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Now I must admire Pundits for this act, but there should be equality between genders.
My Ammi and Khala gave their share to their brothers because of the same fear. I asked my Ammi, when religion and law allow you to have the share, why you refused and gave it to the brothers. She said I don’t need wealth, I need contact with them.
The other reason given by brothers is that the girls are given their share in property through dowry, so they don’t have right in inheritance 
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No, there is inequality:D, Daughter of the house is so revered that even her grandfather would come and touch her feet:). Women in this community are 100% literate and majority of them are at least graduate. This is most unmatchable feat of this community, and this education and awareness resulted in automatic control of population.
In Jat culture women have no inheritance in father’s property but Indian Law has given them share if they claim:) but I hardly see anyone claiming because of love for brothers, neither I can nor I saw my bhabhi doing so:)
Yeah I got too much in dowry and have all of it both movables and immovable:) My great saas took only 1 rupee as religious duty of gift:k:
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So Brahmins don’t give / take dowry. :k:
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Dowry is StreeDhan, gift given to women when she leaves paternal house:), no one else has any right on it. theologically. Brahmins
aren’t supposed to have any possession this is the reason that despite being poorest in forward castes they were always politically influential:)
But bad practice of dowry crept in Brahmins as well, they turn greedy of possession so now they do take it and sometimes brahmin families are also involved in dowry killings:(