Paying for wedding expenses as charity

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Re: Paying for wedding expenses as charity

@Paheli00

I’m wondering how old these orphans are who’re being married off and what type of education or vocational training they have received. I may be in the minority here but personally, I’d much rather pay for education or vocational training for orphans…so they can earn the money to pay for their own wedding and also can provide for themselves AFTER the wedding.

In the absence of family to support them, if the 2 people getting married can not earn the money themselves even for most basic necessities of a wedding…then how will they support themselves AFTER the wedding? Who’s going to pay for their housing, food, clothing etc.? What if they have kids?

Because desis make no sense.

Let’s break down the cost of a wedding, shall we?

1. Qazi - there is a cost to this? Is it actually ethical for them to charge to read a nikkah for two poor people? That may be problem number 1.
2. Court costs for registering the marriage - this may be a legit necessity, but in a country like Pakistan, maybe there can be a waiver from the gov’t…I mean, it’s not like anyone pays any taxes/fees even if they can afford it anyway.
3. The clothing…there is no obligation Islamically to wear fancy clothing - nice and clean, yes, but no obligation to be decked up. No one is talking about golden joras, but at the same time, even buying a fancy dress in the commoner’s markets these days is no less than 10,000 ruppees.

We have to show off, don’t we?

Call me crazy, but you CAN make your own wedding dress…

for a much lower cost…

4. Hall? Screw the hall, marry them in masjids. Or get a hall by donation or something.

What else?

5. Car? Again a luxury, not a necessity.

Yeah, they deserve to have fun at their weddings, but upgrading their wedding to that of a middle class family’s in the name of “charity” suggests that the argument would be just as valid if we gave charities to middle class families to upgrade their weddings to “high class”.