Ladies, how comfortable are you with a guy paying for your meal/shopping/coffee? Obviously it varies from situation to situation and your relationship with the guy, but to what extent would you let them pay?
Guys how comfortable are you with a woman paying for your meal/coffee/shopping/trainers? Do you think it’s a question of pride that you pay for your own things? Again, it’s a different issue if it’s your wife/partner - how about your mums, sisters, daughters even? Or just female colleagues offering to buy your lunch etc?
I'm not too comfortable with ladies paying for me :-/ I wouldn't say it's a question of pride, just old fashioned thinking on my part. Although I would be extremely flattered if they did.
I think I used the wrong word, perhaps pride isn't the case. For me I definitely don't let anyone pay for stuff, it's more of a courtesy thing than a pride thing I think, for me.
I only rarely let guys pay for stuff where I don't want to embarass them, but otherwise 99% of the times I like to pay for my own things, and then probly the meals of my sisters/friends/etc as well!
**if she is older than me ], i wouldn’t mind her paying for my meals because it’s our family tradition that the oldest person in the group pays for everyone else.
i assume she’ll be younger than me so i’ll be more than happy to pay for her meals…ALWAYS! :)**
I don't like it when a guy pays for something for me. It feels awkward. I pay for my own stuff. =/ Even when I go out with friends... either I pay for their stuff or split the bill. And yeah, like OP said... more of a courtesy than pride thing.
I only rarely let guys pay for stuff where I don't want to embarass them, but otherwise 99% of the times I like to pay for my own things, and then probly the meals of my sisters/friends/etc as well!
Not really, cos its a different issue isn’t it. For example, if a hubby and wife are both working and paying for stuff out of a joint account, then they’re stil paying for stuff together.
On the other hand, the reason I started this thread is cos one of my friends (female) pays for almost everything when she goes out with her boyf, pays for his shopping, his meals and even his bills sometimes. And I was just surprised that he would let her. I was a bit annoyed cos I see this as him taking advantage of her good nature a little, and basically sponging off her.
Is that whats happening to you Gaia? Are you being financially abused?
It depends on relationship. When i go out with my close friends (females) then we literally fight to get muft lunch from our other friends............. but when it comes to other gatherings we split the bill equally. In our school gatherings only those pay who have jobs. My male friends don't let me pay the bill mostly except one........ :p
My male friends don't let me pay the bill mostly except one........ :p
Once one of my friends asked me to go to the cinema with him and a bunch of friends, and these friends have guys which ALWAYS insist on paying for me. So I said to my friend that I'll go but ONLY if he lets me pay for my own ticket. He looked at me like I was crazy and said "pshhht...why would I pay for your tickets?? Pay for yourself!".
Once one of my friends asked me to go to the cinema with him and a bunch of friends, and these friends have guys which ALWAYS insist on paying for me. So I said to my friend that I'll go but ONLY if he lets me pay for my own ticket. He looked at me like I was crazy and said "pshhht...why would I pay for your tickets?? Pay for yourself!".
He's still not married yet :/
Once i went with my that friend and i had to pay the bill because i was giving him a teat but i forgot to take money so i used my debit card and it didn't work too so he had to pay the bill :D
I'm used to paying for myself and I don't "like" when guys pay for me. BUT, there are instances when if a guy offers to pay, I don't freak out. If a guy friend is taking me out somewhere, I will offer to pay, but it doesn't offend me if he insists on paying. Actually, come to think of it, it's the same with my gal pals. I expect to pay my own way, unless someone specifically is treating me.
For things other than meals, I will never let anyone else pay for me. Not my shopping or bills, NEVER!
Aww you're sweet KKF!
I don't mind paying for a guy, in fact I used to pay all the time when my hubby (then fiance) was studying and I was working.
thankoo jii...your hubby is a lucky man, indeed! biwi ho to aisii varna ho hii na! :) hai na? :D
Not comfortable to be honest. Just against certain etiquette's (If you may call it) I've developed over the years. But yes, I often try and make it known 1st hand to avoid any grudges to surface/immerse later.
], i wouldn’t mind her paying for my meals because it’s our family tradition that the oldest person in the group pays for everyone else. 
