ok i dont really know how to ask this but, should the past remain buried? i mean for example a girl got divorced and she doesnt have any apparent trace of a marriage and she is going for a second marriage. she doesnt tell him that she is married before. is it right?
i am asking because i have seen this happen alot.
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well everything should be crystal clear before getting married.baad mai roonai sai behtar hai pailai saab cheezain clear kar lain:)its better for both sides.
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lo…and i thout it was summit else…divorce is abig thing…u gotta tell it…i thought r we suppose to tell the other half about our past life like having bf and gf…etc…
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hello sister.
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true that
yeah this too, by past i mean past
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Naa it's not right...I often get to hear such things that girls shouldnt mention past to husbands..but i think it's wrong..ppl nowadays are mature n know to deal with such situation so ..n every realtionship is based on trust ..so it's good to be open n straight fraward specially when ur starting a new life..as sheen said everything should be clear.
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Peshow (CAT) is rigth. I as a Male think that, Girls should not try to hide anything from their Husbands. That will develops a trustworthy relationship between both of them.
On the other hand Husband should not say anything to his wife because Girls are sensative one and never ever be in position to know the past of his husband. So for the better relations guys should hide..
any comments .... ? :)
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but i dont think guys should hide
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the basis of any marriage SHOULD be trust and a thing like a divorce is not something to hide ( or can be hidden for long )
......... it is something that must have been obviously traumatic and had a large effect on shaping her outlook on life and to a large extent her thinking & character , so it is important to put such things out in the open for both partners to understand each other better......
Any relationship that is not based on trust , won't survive too long...
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thank you for your input:k:
love your thinking
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the basis of any marriage SHOULD be trust and a thing like a divorce is not something to hide ( or can be hidden for long )
......... it is something that must have been obviously traumatic and had a large effect on shaping her outlook on life and to a large extent her thinking & character , so it is important to put such things out in the open for both partners to understand each other better......
Any relationship that is not based on trust , won't survive too long...
please comments ....
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i guess major things should be told like divorce and stuff but i guess pasts should remain buried as in the sense that you should never bring it up again and again , you should tell ur hubby if you have had a past relationship but no need to go in detail trus me .
what has happened has happened you cannot change it by dwelling over it . and you can say it is a mistake but at that spur of the moment it was the right thng to do .. so the past should remain buried in that sense
but in the situation above yeh she shud tell her husband to be abt her divorce coz if it is found out later it would be a big shockk
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Funny how we advocate honesty for the girls but some of our guys here on gupshup wouldn't even bother telling their wives before they marry a second wife. . .
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Funny how we advocate honesty for the girls but some of our guys here on gupshup wouldn't even bother telling their wives before they marry a second wife. . .
Point hai bachey ka!!
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Marriage is basically the relationship of trust between two partners and hiding sumthing like divorce accounts for dishonesty. also i believe dat re-marrying without letting your partner know waht turmoil u ve been through wont bring much stability or mental peace to dat person. Marriage is about acceptance--accepting waht your partner IS and WAS.if one cant accept waht their partner has been through there s no point marrying.
i dont think dat such issues like divorce can be hidden for long .even if one individual manages to keep it disclosed he/she will always be trying to keep it under the cover which can be really really tough.
as for bfs /gf s ... i think it depends on the type of the relationship the two partners have. if ur significant half is broad-minded , then there s no harm , if not then there s no need to dig into the past.wahts gone can neva come bak :)
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the basis of any marriage SHOULD be trust and a thing like a divorce is not something to hide ( or can be hidden for long )
......... it is something that must have been obviously traumatic and had a large effect on shaping her outlook on life and to a large extent her thinking & character , so it is important to put such things out in the open for both partners to understand each other better......
Any relationship that is not based on trust , won't survive too long...
well said^
although there are some things that are best left unsaid.......matters such as divorce is not one of them..for the reasons sheyn mentioned above.
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u should not hide n e thing from the person even if u r starting a new relationship so hiding a DIVORSE from someone u r about to start a life wid is a big NO NO. but thats just me.