Its a matter of fact that, DIVORCE is a symbol abusing in our society. A simple thing is that, if you have got a person to marry, and here is a case of DIVORCE (With you or with other) then I think so your mind will change so many directions either though you accept her or not but your way of thinking will change after hearing such a truth (DIVORCE) about that.
I think a past like that can be hide if you want to survive with a new partner unless its difficult to live with the fact that you were DIVORCE .....
Funny how we advocate honesty for the girls but some of our guys here on gupshup wouldn't even bother telling their wives before they marry a second wife. . .
Its a matter of fact that, DIVORCE is a symbol abusing in our society. A simple thing is that, if you have got a person to marry, and here is a case of DIVORCE (With you or with other) then I think so your mind will change so many directions either though you accept her or not but your way of thinking will change after hearing such a truth (DIVORCE) about that.
I think a past like that can be hide if you want to survive with a new partner unless its difficult to live with the fact that you were DIVORCE .....
open fo comments if any ....
something like divorce can not stay hidden, unless u move to a new country and no one in your own family has contacts with the spouse's family.
ok i dont really know how to ask this but, should the past remain buried? i mean for example a girl got divorced and she doesnt have any apparent trace of a marriage and she is going for a second marriage. she doesnt tell him that she is married before. is it right?
i am asking because i have seen this happen alot.
No its not right! Everyone has already explained i'll just add some input.
Let say you dont tell your new husband that you were married before/divorced and imagine after few months/days of your marriage your ex shows up, how would you explain your new husband that? If your ex is really a bad man, he might even end up blackmailing you and taking advantage out of your weakness.
One thing for sure, no matter how much your try to hide, your new husband will one day find out about your previous marriage.
If only we can say, " Lets acknowledge each other's past and move forward."
We as a society shouldn't be judging each other on account of the past and I have failed to understand why women are told to hide their past as opposed to men.
A relationship based on lies and deception will not last long, even if it does, the memory/the issue/the secret will continue to nag and encumber the individual throughout his/her life.
Women like men are human beings and like the former they also make good and bad choices in life. They shouldn't be ostracized for things for which men otherwise get amnesty.
Hiding a past marriage?? Are you crazy?! Relationships are based on trust and honesty, and little secrets here and there are ok, but something as major as this should not and can not remain hidden. It's your duty to let the family know beforehand! There's no need to be afraid of telling the truth, if he accepts it well and great, and if not then it just wasn't meant to be. Quite simple.
If you want a life full of insecurities and drama.....then by all means...hide the past.
Our need to stand as perfect people without a past is such a desi thingy. Its not normal and even a girl who is none married....she has a past....a past of have liked or loved someone else..... Its not possible to get a person with no past. IF he/she claims such...then be sure of it.....its a psycho....
ok i dont really know how to ask this but, should the past remain buried? i mean for example a girl got divorced and she doesnt have any apparent trace of a marriage and she is going for a second marriage. she doesnt tell him that she is married before. is it right?
i am asking because i have seen this happen alot.
i think she should tell him...cauz a relation should be based on trhuth and on hounesty right...so if he really cares bout her then he shouldn't mind it:) lekin yeah it's how he reacts on it...i personally should tell it..only cauz i don't like to tell the half of ma self....
ok i dont really know how to ask this but, should the past remain buried? i mean for example a girl got divorced and she doesnt have any apparent trace of a marriage and she is going for a second marriage. she doesnt tell him that she is married before. is it right?
i am asking because i have seen this happen alot.
How about this happening wth dudes who r married before and then later say"it was just a paper marriage"...How do the girls know it wasnt something more.So Aisha talk about both parts of the equation.If your are talking about the affect on trust..then people have to be honest so that they fascilitate it rather then cut the roots before they are strongly planted in the soil.