here the question is about before marriage.. not afterwards.
would you discuss things prior to getting married...
hmm sadzz this is totally off the top of my head. If I was a person who was fussy or emotionally hung onto the idea of marrying someone who had never before been emotionally attached i would certainly bring it up before i get into marriage. However lets suppose i get married without giving the matter a thought for i think the person i am marrying is coming from a similar background and hasnt been involved it is assumed belief on my part. However human nature is tricky, it should not matter who my partner was involved with prior to our relation ship. For it had nothing to do with us. But i still think i would prefer not to know of his involvement before me. For i come from a backgrounf where involvement before marriage is considered unethical and its sort of ingrained in my thoughts. I would certainly consider it to be morally wrong and therefore that might perhaps temporarily influence the way i view my SO. However if the fear or resentment is ill founded(and there is no emotional garbage getting in our way) i hope i might be able to look beyond it.
But different people view it differently, my husband believes if he loves me for who i am then that emotion shouldnot be over shadowed by what once was, no matter how out of norm for him.
I have selfish and childish and narcisst view of the matter, I know. But in all honesty that is how it would be for me. It would take me time to get used to the idea that while i kept myself to myself before my marriage ,i married someone who did not.