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Whats wrong with wanting space?
some amount of space is definitley important for a healthy relationship..infact giving space is the true indicator the the next person trusts you enough not to barge into itsy bitsy details of every single thing.
But giving space too should have its upper limit. As in a certain amount of confiding in, sharing stuff and making the next feel part of the no-entry zone for the rest also shows how much trust your SO would have for you.
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there you go ... you said sometimes - nothing sharing pw is not a sometimes-giving-space - its a wanting permanent space
we are not talking about family, or friends or anyone you need space from except a husband/wife
if a husband tells his wife one evening i want to go have coffee read a book but not with you, alone, i need my space 2 hours only, how would that sound?
Because sometimes its nice to just be on your own.
I sometimes like space from my family, after dinner we all go off and do our own thing and dont disturb each other and its nice to just sit do your own thing and unwind.
Or like my dad will take a trip with his university friends to releive him from the stresses of everyday life and when my dad does that me and my mum do stuff together.
everyone needs space.
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ok lets go back to the basic question:
what does space mean?
what does giving space mean?
and what does wanting space mean?
what is permanent space? what is sometimes space?
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there you go ... you said sometimes
we are not talking about family, or friends or anyone you need space from except a husband/wife
if a husband tells his wife one evening i want to go have coffee read a book but not with you, alone, i need my space 2 hours only, how would that sound?
if a spouse wants to be alone for some time or even wants to read a book or have coffee, that doesn't sound too bad now does it?
and by giving space doesn't mean literally talking about it ...'i need my space, yea i need my space, parray hatto'
it's kind of accepting that the next person might not always want to divulge all the inner feelings immediately, might want to declutter his/her mind and maybe plan something and also needs to meet his/her friends once in a while. And not too excessively.
That makes sense doesnt it?
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i would share my passwords:chai:
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SK, you dont practice what you preach. Or are you telling us your wife posts for you every now and then????
let me ask you this, why would you want space from your husband? who you sleep with, raise children with, would be spending 30+ years of your life?
what is the basic philosophy behind the philosophy of wanting space/privacy from your spouse?
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There's a difference between wanting space and wanting privacy. There's nothing wrong with space in a relationship. I think its when people really value their privacy the becomes the issues. Thay being said....I don't thing either spouce should go around snooping in the others email or phone.
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i dont get what you are saying
SK, you dont practice what you preach. Or are you telling us your wife posts for you every now and then????
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see you are justifying it with ifs and buts
what i dont understand is how is not revealing your passwords is relating to getting/having space?
if a spouse wants to be alone for some time or even wants to read a book or have coffee, that doesn't sound too bad now does it?
and by giving space doesn't mean literally talking about it ...'i need my space, yea i need my space, parray hatto'
it's kind of accepting that the next person might not always want to divulge all the inner feelings immediately, might want to declutter his/her mind and maybe plan something and also needs to meet his/her friends once in a while. And not too excessively.
That makes sense doesnt it?
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of course you wouldnt understand what im saying.
Since its basically putting your money where your mouth is
i dont get what you are saying
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i honestly didnt get what you said
oh well
of course you wouldnt understand what im saying. Since its basically putting your money where your mouth is
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She is asking
Do you do what you are telling other people to do.
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That means does your wife have your GS password to post on your behalf.
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aha
firstly, here one has no authority to question my character, who is demense to question if i have double standards unless it directly or indirectly affects his/her life
secondly, i am not accountable to give any justification to clear any assumptions one makes about the basis of my arguments - sometimes i do clear any confusions mostly i dont depends on my mood honestly
so simply put, my wife has access to everything of mine, she can do/see whatever she wants, period
crystal clear?
She is asking
Do you do what you are telling other people to do.
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I love my girls :)
She is asking
Do you do what you are telling other people to do.
That means does your wife have your GS password to post on your behalf.
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see you are justifying it with ifs and buts
what i dont understand is how is not revealing your passwords is relating to getting/having space?
ifs and buts are just there to give variable scenarios.
Now a hypothetical situation:
you are overworked and thinking of some huge techincal project at work. Now your spouse obviously senses you are pre-occupied. Would you like it if she keeps pestering you 'kya baat hai..ap pareshan hain..kya hua hai...mujhe to batayein'
Wouldn't that irk you ? She being a housewife or in some completely other profession wouldn't understand all the technicalities. So her continuous pestering would get on your nerves, wouldn't it? That is what giving space means. Your SO can sense something is wrong but is considerate enough to let you deal with it on your own and give you the space and time to talk about it when you want to.
Now about sharing passwords. I think it would be immature to ask one's SO to give me all their passwords, bank pins etc and snooping in their phones or accounts. This means there is lack of trust. When one is living together asking for such time becomes unimportant because eventually a person would know everything naturally without ASKING for it.
That's all about space.
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My my, arent I glad you were "in the mood" today :)
aha
firstly, here one has no authority to question my character, who is demense to question if i have double standards unless it directly or indirectly affects his/her life secondly, i am not accountable to give any justification to clear any assumptions one makes about the basis of my arguments - sometimes i do clear any confusions mostly i dont depends on my mood honestly
so simply put, my wife has access to everything of mine, she can do/see whatever she wants, period
crystal clear?
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aha
firstly, here one has no authority to question my character, who is demense to question if i have double standards unless it directly or indirectly affects his/her life secondly, i am not accountable to give any justification to clear any assumptions one makes about the basis of my arguments - sometimes i do clear any confusions mostly i dont depends on my mood honestly
so simply put, my wife has access to everything of mine, she can do/see whatever she wants, period
crystal clear?
nobody actually judged your character. It's just a **civil **discussion!
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*Now about sharing passwords. I think it would be immature to ask one's SO to give me all their passwords, bank pins etc and snooping in their phones or accounts. This means there is lack of trust. When one is living together asking for such time becomes unimportant because eventually a person would know everything naturally without ASKING for it. * That's all about space.
I do agree that it denotes a lack of trust. And similarly, sharing passwords does not build trust as such. Why bother? How immature is it to pry into every aspect?
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Dont blame him. Perhaps its the begum answering. And who knows, her day might be going badly :)
nobody actually judged your character. It's just a **civil **discussion!