Re: Passing ones gift to someone else
Im so ashamed and sorry to call Kinnz kinky....i swear it was mistake......can we forget that pls...look i write fast and forget and make errors sometimes....
And to R.V
Im sorry but ill stick to my argument that kinz shud have chekd her in-laws properly.
This is common flaw i notice in many pakistani families who lash onto proposals ...based on initial impressions of the other party...with lame excuses like you dont get rista's nowadays, or look our girl is already 23 when will u marry her-when shes a buddi-girls dont get ristas after they reach 25, and other such as u would know of.
And when you tell these people to bea bit more responsible at the timeof the proposal, they act all proudly and tell u simply to f.off, as someone who doesnt want them to b happy.
So these bascially people 'ask-for-it' when they decide crucial things in such unresponsible and stupid ways.
And yeh actually di think its the girls fault. Why shoudnt it be. Shes plays a big role in the selection process.
And c'mon the kind of comment the in-laws made was a proper gatiya type, coming from only a **gatiyah person and family. **I would like to call them uneducated
And How can somebody marrying thier daughter not notice or not bother to notice such an extreme charecteristic in thier in-laws.
This aint no eeechy-peechy lil thing ladie.
And the stupid DIL and MIL...I mean.....if you r jealous of the girl or her family..if you dont like them...why did you marry them then!?
Stupid Pakis
You're being unreasonable. People are not going to show every little thing about their personality during the rishta process. People can behave with respect around some people.........and behave disrespectfully around others.
When you are in your own home.......you sometimes get into arguments with your brother and sister and you may yell and be more comfortable showing your ugly side. BUT......when you and brother/sister go to a party/dawat.....you both will be on your best behavior.
Your behavior in a formal setting will be different than your behavior in your own home. You can get away with a lot more things in your own home.
Also, most people show tameez when they meet others...... When you meet someone/go to someone's house....you will try your best to act respectful even if you don't like the person that much.
If a Mother-in-law REALLY REALLY REALLY wants a particular girl for her son.........she's going to try extra hard to show the girl and her parents a positive image.............so that the girl's family will like them and say "yes" to the rishta. The truth might come out later.
ALSO.......when the girl's family does investigation........people will say DIFFERENT things. They might ask "hum apni larki ka rishta iss jagah karnay ka soch rahein hain......aap bata saktey hain k larkay ki family kaisi hai?" And MANY people can say, "Haan, larkay ki family bahut achi hai. Us ki maa aur behnay bahut tameez daar hain."
^Because jab hum logo se miltay hain.....to apnay aap ko acha dikhanay ki koshish kartay hain.........and this is how other people say good things about us during investigation process. And that's how a girl will NOT KNOW ALL THE DETAILS of a person's personality until AFTER MARRIAGE.
And that's common sense........you won't know with **100% accuracy **what kind of personality your mother-in-law, sister-in-law, husband, or wife has UNTIL you start living with them.
You're trying to say that you can find out everything. And I'm saying that you can find out some things, even most things.....but not ALL things.