Why do desi parents think it is okay? I just dont get it, do they realize it is verbal abuse? How do they justify it? I cant wrap my head around it.
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i dont think its anything to do with being a desi parent. i have seen goray too who use bad language for their kids.
- its the lack of education
- lack of good environment (parents who have had verbal abuse when they were kid think that this is how their kids should be treated)
- lack of care
- they find this as an easy way of showing their anger which they had for some other thing.
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anyone who swears is an ill-mannered person. i do NOT accept any form of swearing and i believe it's **"tahzeeb se girii hui baat"**
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agreeeee with blesso and KKF bhai
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pagal da puttar
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this is just swearing at the father…
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lol…I’m a bad parent.
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Come on guys, you take everything way too seriously. My dad, whenever he was angry at me, used to say soo'ar to me :D ...I am willing to give away any worldly possession of mine for him to come back and say that to me one more time.
When I remember him, I dont remember the times when he was angry at me (which were not many) but what I am because of the hard work he did to financially support us and how he took care of our needs. he used to travel by public transport but bought a bike for me so I can go to college.
We need to be grateful of our parents. I want my kids to be grateful of what we do for them and not what we say when we are angry.
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Come on guys, you take everything way too seriously. My dad, whenever he was angry at me, used to say soo'ar to me :D ...I am willing to give away any worldly possession of mine for him to come back and say that to me one more time.
When I remember him, I dont remember the times when he was angry at me (which were not many) but what I am because of the hard work he did to financially support us and how he took care of our needs. he used to travel by public transport but bought a bike for me so I can go to college.
We need to be grateful of our parents. I want my kids to be grateful of what we do for them and not what we say when we are angry.
Half a century old norms do not apply anymore, specially in civilized world. :p
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I understand what you are saying TLK.....but saying that word to a teenager and saying it to a toddler are two different things......
maybe we should define exactly what we are talking about here.....
I often refer to Noor as "gadhee".....and she understands that it is said in jest and not with malice.....but if she were a few years younger she might not have had the level of comprehension to understand that.
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Ya i agree with muzna....Toddlers need a very clean vocab to hear to... Otherwise they will never learn what is right to say and what is not... And what is being said for funI would often say ganda to midget when he would make a mess and he started to say it too...to everyone... We quit using that word totally. Imagine calling ure kid salaa or khabees just to vent.... Wouldnt be surprised if the could ended up saying it too...And whatever happened to 'name ure kids good meaning names as it affects their personality' .....this is the saying we throw around when we try to find nice names for our kids..... Yet i k ow more than enuff parents that call their kids pretty horrible stuff for whatever reason.... Where does that theory go then? Dh im. Ot saying the names are being replaced by curse words.... But they are being used often enuff in ay to day dealings.... Whats up withh that?!
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Yeah but some words are just so bad that they should never be uttered…ever,…not to kids, not even to adults.
Its kinda funny, I have never heard my nephews utter bad words in front of us…the most I heard from them was “stupid” and even uss ko mana kiya tha to not say that…but I know they hear bad words around them.
Antoher friend of mine…she’s trained her son so well, taht whenever I say the word “stupid” when i’m talking to my friend, he’ll interrupt us and say “MAMA USS NE BAD WORD KAHA!!!” 
Its easy to not use swear words around young kids, but then there are some words that aren’t exactly bad language, but some parents don’t want their kids to use those words, like “stupid” and unless you know the parents very well, you don’t know what will or won’t offend them.
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I understand what you are saying TLK.....but saying that word to a teenager and saying it to a toddler are two different things......
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Ok. I did not see any reference to the age of the child in the original post so just brought in my example.
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Nvm, I kinda agree with everyone :D
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Kids born in west do no understand desi bad words like if you call them Ullo they will think that you are complimenting them for their smartness. If you call them gadha they think you are complimenting them for being innocent. If you call them soo'er ka bacha they think you are calling them gutter ka bacha which is totally incomprehensible for them. ( in USA gutter is written as sewer and pronounced as soo'er)
Desi do not like to use English bad words for their kids because they think they are too offending.
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^ Um no kids in west aren't that stupid, we know that soo'er does not mean gutter/sewer.
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Come on guys, you take everything way too seriously. My dad, whenever he was angry at me, used to say soo'ar to me :D ...I am willing to give away any worldly possession of mine for him to come back and say that to me one more time.
When I remember him, I dont remember the times when he was angry at me (which were not many) but what I am because of the hard work he did to financially support us and how he took care of our needs. he used to travel by public transport but bought a bike for me so I can go to college.
We need to be grateful of our parents. I want my kids to be grateful of what we do for them and not what we say when we are angry.
Oh TLK...even my mom/dad used to say such things to me when i was a kid. i dont care and mind whatever he says to me since he is my dad and he has done sooo much for me that such words seem very very little.
honestly my parents used to swear at me when i use to do anything wrong or shararti.
my point was towards those parents who make this as a habit and even say some of the very very vulgar words and wont even hesitate in swearing at their kids infront of others. such atmosphere can shatter the self confidence of a kid so easily.
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^ Um no kids in west aren't that stupid, we know that soo'er does not mean gutter/sewer.
And you are living proof that kids raised in West do no get desi jokes .
My post is just for the sake of entertainment , not for ura'oing the mazaq of kids raised in the west. I am myself raising three kids here , I know very well what my kids know and what they don't know. :@:
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When my dad swears, I get scared of Punjabi people.
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Parents who swear at their kids jahils of highest order.