Re: parents who put their newborns to slp in another room is WRONG.
To Nadz and DD: Who says placing baby to sleep in her own room is the same as letting the baby cry it out? These are two totally separate topics.
As for crying it out, it didn’t work for us, and I didn’t like it. Bunny doesn’t cry unless there is a reason. And letting her cry just upsets her more. However, in the middle of the night, I don’t immediately run to her. If she seems just to have been startled out of sleep, I give her a couple minutes to fall back to sleep. If she doesn’t settle down, I go in to check on her. i resist the urge to just pick her up immediately if she is upset (whether during the day or at night); rather I try to soothe her or talk to her or try to figure out what is bothering her.
Why weren’t the parents you guys mentioned using monitors and checking on the child, when needed? These are very simple and common tools.