parents who put their newborns to slp in another room is WRONG.

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Re: parents who put their newborns to slp in another room is WRONG.

@nadz123

ok firstly, there have been times my baby has had the blanket somehow ending up on her face, alot of kicking and fighting shes always gdoing with the blankets and stuff, and somehow alhumdulilah by chance ive woken up to see or shes start to wimper, also have been times where shes starting coughing, now if she was in her own room, would i hear her cough? coughing alot, people say oh youll hear them crying, why should i let her cry…crying for a baby is the last resort…why should we let them get to that stage…just for our own sanity/peace of mind whatever. i find it BS that the reason for serperate room at such a young age is so they wont trouble you later or whatever, of course they will, they will trouble you always…your having a child, its not just for christmas dil bar gaya tho seperate kardo, theres a reason why docs recommened atleast 6months, and il do anything to r educe any sort of chance of anything happening to her. its not smothering, keeping her safe is not smothering, yes if i wanted her to slp with me when she was 15, of course it is.

and by few years i mean atleast until theyr 2 or 3…they wont be that young ever again.

one thing i have read is that the chances of SID and other fatal accidents has been where baby has been seperated…that scared the hell out of me…

anyway i do find it odd people would KILL themselves to have a child, would do anything for one, but as soon as they get one, they cant get away from the child…seperate this and seperate that just so that mummy and daddy can get some private` time…please.

however im not attacking anyone here personally.

Monitors are pretty sensitive. I can hear Bunny breathe and I listen to her as I fall asleep.

Our plan was to move the crib into our room initially, but it wouldn’t fit through the doorways. One option was to take it apart and reassemble it, but we figured lets try a couple nights with her in her own room. We didn’t start until we got the video monitor (we exchanged the regular audio monitor we had, for our own peace of mind). Anyway, she was just a little less than 6 months when we moved her. She slept soundly from day 1 in there. It actually doesn’t feel any different from when she was in a bassinet in our room, except that our coughing and shifting is less likely to disturb her. We are conscious of every movement she makes.

I am not “letting her go” or “desperate for a separation.” I’ve just found a situation that works for all of us. She gets a bath from both parents, a feed, cradled to sleep and then put down for the night. She’s hardly lacking in care and attention.

Around 8 months and again around 10 months or so her separation anxiety kicked in (as well as new teeth) and so her nights were disturbed and she wanted to be with us. We would comfort her and put her back down. Sometimes she would settle, sometimes she wouldn’t. But having the crib in our room wouldn’t have made a difference. She wanted to be held and those were some rough nights. That’s all part of parenting, and fulfilling your child’s needs takes many different forms.

For the past few nights she was running a fever and we kept her with us to keep an eye on her. We’ll probably transition her back soon. Lets see how that goes.

If you approach parenting with hard and fast rules, and with unreasonable judgments of other parents rather than an open mind toward the process, you’re going to struggle. And you’ll also annoy the hell out of people who could otherwise be a nice support system for you.