Parents want me to say yes to a rishta because they think I might not get another

superstar · August 1, 2015, 10:02pm

Re: Parents want me to say yes to a rishta because they think I might not get another

Just because someone else is willing to jump off a bridge, doesn’t mean you have to do the same. What that guy is willing to do with his future is not your concern right now.

Your initial post in this thread asked whether you should be worried about getting a rishta if you say “no” this. The answer to your question is no. But I get the feeling you already knew it. I think in your heart and brain, you already know that life doesn’t end at 23 and that if you say “no” to this, you still have plenty of hope in the future for rishtas.

No one can help you in this situation. You are the only one who can actually do anything. You have every right to meet a guy in person before saying test to marrying him. Your parents and other elders won’t be sharing their life with the guy. YOU will. If a little voice inside you is telling you that this is a bad idea…then listen to that voice.

BTW, I think it’s really weird that he’s also in the UK but you haven’t seen him in 9 YEARS. Your parents never visit his parents (or vice versa) for Eid or any other occasion? Your family members never share pictures? You don’t have your cousins on Facebook or any other social media?

We aren’t cousins. we are far relatives. we live quite a distant apart and our families weren’t really in touch before the proposal to be honest . Maybe the odd phone call but that’s it.

I get what you and others are saying. it’s a big decision obviously , I have to spend my whole life with him. I must not rush things.

I’m going to try to get a have a phone convo with him after telling my mum my concerns.she’ll hopefully understand and I’ll see how it goes from there ..