Parents want me to say yes to a rishta because they think I might not get another

[Paheli00]

Re: Parents want me to say yes to a rishta because they think I might not get another

@superstar

True but the only issue is that the guy has already agreed to the marriage as he trusts his parents choice. the elders view it as besharam that a girl is requesting to get to know The guy.Personally I don’t feel comfortable at all marrying some one Without getting to know him. BUT this isn’t how my parents are thinking. They don’t even consider this a major issue as back in the day my parents got married without even seeing each other’s photos. they’re happily married and so they think its not that important knowing someone first.

Just because someone else is willing to jump off a bridge, doesn’t mean you have to do the same. What that guy is willing to do with his future is not your concern right now.

Your initial post in this thread asked whether you should be worried about getting a rishta if you say “no” this. The answer to your question is no. But I get the feeling you already knew it. I think in your heart and brain, you already know that life doesn’t end at 23 and that if you say “no” to this, you still have plenty of hope in the future for rishtas.

No one can help you in this situation. You are the only one who can actually do anything. You have every right to meet a guy in person before saying test to marrying him. Your parents and other elders won’t be sharing their life with the guy. YOU will. If a little voice inside you is telling you that this is a bad idea…then listen to that voice.

BTW, I think it’s really weird that he’s also in the UK but you haven’t seen him in 9 YEARS. Your parents never visit his parents (or vice versa) for Eid or any other occasion? Your family members never share pictures? You don’t have your cousins on Facebook or any other social media?