Parents want me to say yes to a rishta because they think I might not get another

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Re: Parents want me to say yes to a rishta because they think I might not get another

@superstar

True but the only issue is that the guy has already agreed to the marriage as he trusts his parents choice. the elders view it as besharam that a girl is requesting to get to know The guy.Personally I don’t feel comfortable at all marrying some one Without getting to know him. BUT this isn’t how my parents are thinking. They don’t even consider this a major issue as back in the day my parents got married without even seeing each other’s photos. they’re happily married and so they think its not that important knowing someone first.

Are you not in contact with him at all then? There has to be a way for you to get a hold of him (phone/email/FB). And when you do, then you should tell him that you still don’t know him that well and that your parents are not allowing for that to happen as they feel it’s wrong and that’s why you can’t readily agree to the rishta but you’re facing pressure from your parents. Also discuss career goals with him. Let him know about your constraints. He’s your cousin, so maybe take him into confidence and he could try to help you out by telling his own parents to slow down. Since your own parents aren’t budging to your pleas and if you don’t have sibling or relative that can convince parents on your behalf, then try to find a way to get in touch with guy. You may have to exert some effort in doing so, but consider it.