Re: PARENTS RESPECT (BSB HATERS, Stay Out!)
Let’s talk about this “right” issue. Exercising your “right” or “haq” can become a transgression if that right hurts or deprives others. This is what you are not understanding because you are so stuck on “exercising my right to cut off ties” that you fail to see…or perhaps deliberately choose not to see…the consequences of this decision.
Ask your husband if he would be totally okay with you “cutting ties” with his mother if she persistently disrespects you…and let’s see what he says. Cutting ties means that you will never greet your MIL with salam if you see her…you will never talk to her on the phone let alone in person…you will never enquire about her if she’s ailing or on her deathbed …you will never offer condolences if a relation of hers passes away…you will never acknowledge her in front of your kids…etc etc. Now do you really think your husband…hypothetically speaking…would be okay with this? Do you really think him and your kids and your marriage won’t be affected?
Now if you’re gonna tell me “That’s too extreme. I would still try to be polite but keep a distance.” Then you are admitting what I said earlier…that maintaining a civil distance would be a better idea as opposed to completely “cutting ties” and hurting others just to preserve your sanity. And while you may see this as your “right” …it has the potential to become a transgression.
well i personally avoided this whole fiasco by breaking off my engagement to the guy whos mother was disrespectful to me. but not all women are fortunate enough to see their mother inlaws true colors before marriage and get stuck with those people for the rest of their lives. by cutting off ties, i basically meant keeping a good distance just like you mentioned here.