PARENTS RESPECT (BSB HATERS, Stay Out!)

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Re: PARENTS RESPECT (BSB HATERS, Stay Out!)

@bella88

i think that in that scenario, both DIL and the husband should confront the mother and tell her shes wrong. MIL should apologize and not repeat the same things again. if its done over and over, the DIL has every right to cut of ties with the MIL and ignore her plain and simple. thats what I would do.

In most cases you can’t get rid of the MIL completely even if you live separately from in-laws. Reason being that the MIL is your husband’s mother and the grandmother of your kids. You can choose to maintain a civil distance from her. But cutting her out completely to where you never speak to her nor inquire about her in circumstances such as illness, accidents, etc…will hurt your spouse, your marriage, your kids. As I said before…it has a domino-effect where you are not the only one effected. Just as persistent badtameezi from MIL has a domino-effect…strict avoidance or cold shoulder will also have a domino effect; they are both extreme behaviors. I think that a middle ground…where one doesn’t cut off ties but maintains a civil/polite distance…would be better and should not be so hard to manage if one is not living with in-laws.