Re: PARENTS RESPECT (BSB HATERS, Stay Out!)
How do you want the DIL to respond? What comes to mind is the example of my aunt. She has wronged a few people in the family. But she came around to apologizing to another aunt much sooner than she did with my uncle. The reason for this is that my aunt responded with a decent approach whereas my uncle only fueled the ego and tension by fighting back aggressively. I know it is easier said than done, but generally speaking, it takes people a longer time to cool down if you treat them in kind. There are many ways that the DIL can choose to respond. She can treat her in-laws with equal or greater badtameezi than they showed her. She can choose to forgive and move on. She can choose not to forgive, but to still take the higher road. She can choose to confront her in-laws tactfully by herself or with her husband. Whatever method she chooses, she has to factor in the pros and cons and whether or not her decision will hurt/affect others (besides herself) in the long run…such as her husband, the marriage, kids, etc.
i think that in that scenario, both DIL and the husband should confront the mother and tell her shes wrong. MIL should apologize and not repeat the same things again. if its done over and over, the DIL has every right to cut of ties with the MIL and ignore her plain and simple. thats what I would do.