Parents of daughters: School Uniforms & Modesty

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Re: Parents of daughters: School Uniforms & Modesty

@ShahreyarKhan

im sorry but i have to confirm -

so you are saying are ok/fine with knee length skirts for girls?

what do you mean when you say you dont see a big deal in girls wearing swim suits?

Yes, I am fine with girls wearing knee-lenth skirts to school and they have socks which cover most of the legs anyway. Second, swim suits (not the ones with undies, but with shorts) are fine. It’s for a sport, I dont see what the issue is. The girls are on the Pakistani swim teams wear swim suits (one pieces) and these girls are not from elite families, just regular everyday-Pakistani families and they’ve made sense of the fact that it’s a sport and thats it.

@theBadCook

Whether in pakistan or england, i wouldnt be comfortable with my little girl wearing a skirt, even if it up to her knees. Id rather she be protected from the eyes of paedophiles than look “fashionable”. The world is a bad place and modesty is more for our own protection than for expressing our faith.

Like someone said, pedos dont care how children are dressed. Second, this isn’t to look fashionable.

@soconfused

A lot of pakistani families in Pakistan are so caught up with this whole fashion/westernization concept that they’ve started equating being “MODREN” with vulgarity. You can be modern in a shalwar kameez following Islamic rules and you can be a jahil, backwards, close-minded animal even if you’re dressed in the most expensive western wear available.

Shalwar kameez is Pakistan’s libaas, why should anyone look down on anyone else wearing it? It actually makes me sad that when I go to Pakistan I look like a fool because I’m the one trying hard to speak Urdu and wear shalwar kameez.

Okay, rant done. (I just came back from Lahore and I’m more than a little frustrated at how ridiculous Pakistani mentality is getting…something that I was exposed to a little too much considering I was there for Eid). On the topic: no I would not let my girl wear shorts or skirts or bathing suits after 5 or 6. up to 16 is far too old. Islamically once you hit puberty you’re an adult and obligated to follow all rulings and that’s how I intend to raise my children, iA. I wasn’t allowed to wear shorts or capris or sleeveless growing up–after the age of 6–and I think I’m modern enough and function fine in American society.

Did anyone bother reading what I said? It has nothing to do with shalwar kameez. And personally, I think you’re taking it too seriously because ypu’ve taken on the burden of being modern and still Islamic. Just be yourself, who cares what the people in pakistan want to do or not do? When I go back home, I’ve talked with a few of my cousin’s burger bachi friends and yes, they only talk in English even if I reply back in Urdu. Makes me laugh and possibly cringe but I’m not gonna be up in arms because they (they being a selective group of youth) choose to be like that.

@STA

are you using gs android application. it sucks.

Nope, the one for iPhones/Touch, it’s awesome.