Re: Parents of Adopted child/ren
Many of the newborns at Edhi are such that no one knows their lineage even if one tried to find it. Alot of them unfortunately are born out of wedlock and someone has already tried really hard to hide the child's lineage. What then are the foster parents to do? What surname do you then give that child?
two different issues my friend.
giving the surname is not the same as passing them off as your own. They are two different things.
Even if you knew the kids parents names in some cases its easier to just have them use the ame last name as you because of reasons taht include feeling a sense of inclusion (by the kids) acdeptance etc etc, and it is easier for paperwork.
We have adopted kids, they have the same surname as us but we dont hide the fact that they are adopted. Its different than telling people that they are our biological kids.
I can understand the stigma in Pakistan as I have heard from ppl who have adopted kids there and been open about it or when teh secret is leaked how teh kids are treated by family, friends, nieghbours..heck even servants. The blame is more on society then on the ppl who adopt, one can fault them for being weak I suppose, but they know the society and they are doing this..i.e. hising the fact that the child is adopted for the best interests of the kid.