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ok... good to know that most of you guys thought it odd and a no no in parenting ... what this friend of mine was doing. just found it really odd and thought what other parents may think of this...
muzna... a job very well done! mashallah.
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If I am a single dad, am I allowed to help my girls? What if my wife is sick and cant get up from her bed? What if someone has a daughter with special needs, can that guy help his daughter or its still a big no no?
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I don't think anyone is implying rigid measures be taken here. What we are saying is that it is nice to teach your children modesty so they themselves understand that value. Of course it is alright for parent to help your children when needed.
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I understand that part, but if there are exceptions outside, its not because those parents are bad parents or sick minded parents. There are reasons beyond normal social norms that people need to adopt based on their situations. No parent wants to see their kids naked for fun. If someone is helping their kids at even older age, chances are that there is need for that.
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I don't think that anyone here would be discussing the "special circumstances".
Generalizing applies to the average.......not to the unique cases.
My nephew has a special needs daughter that is now 9 years old. While she has grown physically, her behaviour is similar to that of an infant. She still requires to be fed by bottle and she still wears diapers. It is highly unlikely that Fatima will progress beyond these stages. My nephew is very much involved in her care. There is only so much that his wife can handle in terms of lifting the child and manipulating her. Do I think it is wrong for him to help with her bathing etc? Absolutely not.
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^ I was referring to the rigid judgment of khwateen :D
ok... good to know that most of you guys thought it odd and a no no in parenting
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I don't think that anyone here would be discussing the "special circumstances". Generalizing applies to the average.......not to the unique cases.
and btw Muzna, no parent in general life would disagree with what everyone is saying, but we cannot set this rule in concrete. There always are justified exceptions and when we start a thread in Life, we need to discuss all the aspects of life. that is all I am doing.
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Ya but tlk that is not even open to discussion, if u have a child with special needs, its understood they will need more help and for longer than a normal person.
What we r talking about here is a normal child in your normal life with normal parents
As for the poor single dad, why would the rules change? He should have just like any other dad ,taught his kid to bathe and be independant that way at a much earlier age than the 8 yrs given here. Course im not saying he shouldnt help out at all if there is no mom around.....Like muzna said, they could require help with their hair etc...... But to sit and bathe ure kid head to toe...... Dont know man.
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No one gives a head to toe bath to a 8 years old 
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and btw Muzna, no parent in general life would disagree with what everyone is saying, but we cannot set this rule in concrete. There always are justified exceptions and when we start a thread in Life, we need to discuss all the aspects of life. that is all I am doing.
Nah, my question was really just based on the scenerio that i gave about the friend. Its a regular family with no special requirements. The girl is butt lazy, and the parents take easy ways out rather than trying to get their girl to change her ways.
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Kerdiya na kabara… Mere bhai, what do u think i have been discusing so far? This dad was giving his daughter a full bath, head to toe. That is what i found weird. If it were just oh no get soap outta my eyes or help me rinse my hair, i would have understood… But not what he was doing.
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Khawateen, remember that TLK is a man. He only listens to half the story :D
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I personally disagree with everyone of you. That is one thing that 8 years old should be independent but if they are not and they need your help then not helping them (in bathing or whatever) is more of a bad parenting than avoid seeing them naked. You cant punish them for being 8 years old and expect them to be independent at the expense of you not helping them at all. 8 years old is still a child and if he/she needs your help then he/she needs your help, you cant dump your kid in the bathroom just because you have certain standards of how old he/she needs to be before you cant see them naked.
Before you want your kids to grow up, you should grow up.
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Report the dad to the authorities…sounds like a michael jackson to me 
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^ that POV is sad.
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I like it. the first ever post by Dictator TLK. :k:
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Secondly ladies, that is too much of mistrust on fathers. It’s wrong. .bad.. worst… 