i was talking to a close friend of mine on the phone and she was saying shouting out orders every now and then to her husband who was giving her… wait for it… 8 yr old daughter a bath.
i found it very odd and a bit disturbing.
im a parent myself… sure our childrens wee wees and pee pees dont even exist cuz its just one of those things that we overlook as parents… and the majority of us dont have sick minds nor will we abuse our kids in any way physically…
but the idea of an 8 yr old girl getting bathed by her dad… i dont know…
so then i thought bout my own son.. we have a long time to go before he turns 8… but will it still be wrong if i help him bathe properly when he is an 8 yr old? or should his privates be covered …
is it worse when a father bathes his 8 yr old daughter than a mother that bathes her son… or is it just as bad?
i dont know why but it seems harder to grasp the idea of a father and daughter bath time routine (at such an age) than it is a mother and son…
i know you are talking about an 8 year old but i have a 14 month old girl and i work full time while my hubby takes care of her which means he changes her nappy and baths her everyday. At first my mum did say that it wasn't right but she obviously understands that i have no choice. But hopefully when she is potty trained etc.. he won't be doing that anymore and i thought 8 year olds could pretty much bath themselves or am i wrong?
I guess it's odd, but my hubby is very involved in my daughter's routines. When I'm out, he gives her baths. And if we're both home, we do it together every night (he pours the water while I wash; and he keeps her entertained while I massage and dress her). Of course, she's only 13.5 months.
That is a bit odd. Like Decent6Chora my son is being taught to take a bath (really a shower) by himself now and he is 4. I just set the water temperature for him, add shampoo to his head and come get him when he is done. At this point I have to keep checking to make sure he washes and also brushes...but I am hoping sooner than later that he can do it himself....safely...
Even my 4 year old can take a bath on her own, the only problem being the shampoo rinsing part. I think it's best to make them independent in this area as quickly as possible.
But isn't it a bit dangerous leaving a 4 year old alone in the shower. I mean I'm all for letting them do the stuff themselves but there should be someone there when their 4 years old, because they could slip allah nakaaray.
I think idea is to let them be independent and not handicap. For safety reasons as Niksik said, always be around even if that mean sitting right outside the open door of bathroom like my begum
8 year old in my opinion is too old to be bathing infront of father.
I know the father or mother does not have any dirty thoughts but this is not for the parents but for the childs sake.
In my opinion this kind of behaviour removes or lessens the modesty a girl/boy should learn to have.
As for leaving the kids in the tub and them slipping, you can get those slip resistant bathtub mat and never have the bath tub completely full.
nice topic, i was also wondering when my kids will start taking bath by themselves. and i am starting bath training from tomorrow . very nice advice from D6C. i will foloow it. my son will be turning 5 by end of next month Inshallah, i think i am already late. but i am upto it.
I personally disagree with everyone of you. That is one thing that 8 years old should be independent but if they are not and they need your help then not helping them (in bathing or whatever) is more of a bad parenting than avoid seeing them naked. You cant punish them for being 8 years old and expect them to be independent at the expense of you not helping them at all. 8 years old is still a child and if he/she needs your help then he/she needs your help, you cant dump your kid in the bathroom just because you have certain standards of how old he/she needs to be before you cant see them naked.
Before you want your kids to grow up, you should grow up.
But the rule should be that if you dont have a 8 years old, then dont talk about the set dos and don'ts of how a 8 years old should be raised. If you have one then I will be very respectfully listening to the opinions.
