It isn’t always necessary that you should accept a guy/girl your parents choose for you,or is it? 
I think there are some parents who think their child should accept whoever they choose for him/her and they cannot take NO for an answer.What do you think?
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Waterfall, are your parents really strict? They won't let you marry a person of your choice?
well if u think the have made a right decision for u then whats wrong with it but if u can develop feelings for the guy or u like some one else ...or u think u can get some one better....then talk to ur parents otherwise they think better for their kids...but they should definatly ask for ur ideas abt it
Actually , I agree with Waterfall , parents always do whats best for their child , but its eventually the child who will be living his/her life with the spouse .. so he/she should have a major say in this decision.
those parents who simply cant take no for an answer arent being very fair with their child… Even the religion encourages the parents to talk to the daughter particularly to ask her will for a particular proposal before finalizing it.
marriage should be a unanimous decision between all the parties involved … 
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Parents will always consider you as their "child" and in thieir subconciously they will always consider you not mature/intelligent enough to make important decisions in life.
One way to make your parents respect you is to display mature thinking and behavior and also by being independent.
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Tum mein himaaT hai Tu bhaGawat karlooo
warNa jahan Maah baap kahain wahan shadi karlo
:~
i know , easier said than done !
But many of us live for the people around us , ar friends , family and parents ... in a hope that one day , they will live or get a chance to live their own life ! They make sacrifices..
But when that day comes , its too late ! Happiness hardly knocks your door twice mate !
marriage should be a unanimous decision between all the parties involved ... :@:
But ya cant make every body happy , can Ya ?
whts the point die trying than ? To get the title ' Best son/daughter of the world ' written on your tombstone ?
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Waterfall,
A marriage contract (call it nikkah) primarily seeks the consent of the guy and the girl in order for it to be considered valid. Keeping that in mind, it's foolish to impose a marriage on your own child, as your OWN child will be the one who will have to DEAL with the marriage....not the parents. It's not the parents who will have face the various issues that take place in their children's marriage.
Secondly, any parents who FORCE their child to marry someone of their choice or pursue a career of their choice.......have failed to foster independent thinking skills in their children. And that's dangerous because life is tough, and your parents won't always be around, and you need to learn how to make decisions on your own. Parents who raise their kids and give little attention to their children's opinions are implementing a dysfunctional and unhealthy upbringing.
Regardless of the parental pressure and emotional black mail, at the end of the day that marriage contract requires **your **consent more than your parents.
Waterfall, lately your questions have centered around the dynamics of marriage/relationships.......is everything okay?
lol - another funny post… okay… sorry i don’t take life too seriously… so here’s my take on this…
ok if moms and pops can’t take no (which I doubt 
) then I will have to have a conditional marriage!!
..meaning I marry him if my conditions are met!
My conditions:
Fine to marriage, and being a “servant” and clean up and polish, and shin da home… and also, while at it, make sure the cooking gets done, etc.
BUT I cannot be fine wid being in the same room with “hubby” dear.
see If conditions are met then I’m happy, and so iz everybody else! LOL
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^ I don't understand what funny you are finding in it?It's not funny,believe me,there are people who go through this in life.
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First night with a total stranger … hmmm … must be interesting
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You should have a say in who youre going to spend the rest of your life with. period.
^ I don't understand what funny you are finding in it?It's not funny,believe me,there are people who go through this in life.
I find it funny because I do not know of any "harsh" parents who would push their grownup kids to marry someone they do not like.
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Some parents do that 
yh some parents do it.. well i knw a girl who went to pakistan with her family. The parents made it out to the girl shes going on a holiday but got her married. The grandad was ill init and the parents said if you dont accept the marriage (to her cousin) then grandads probably going to have a heart attck because he was really poorly at the time. The girl was forced to accept the marriage.. a couple of months later the grandad recovered but it was the girl who had to suffer through all this..
there are some parents who would do all this just to make the girl marry someone of their choice..
yh some parents do it.. well i knw a girl who went to pakistan with her family. The parents made it out to the girl shes going on a holiday but got her married. The grandad was ill init and the parents said if you dont accept the marriage (to her cousin) then grandads probably going to have a heart attck because he was really poorly at the time. The girl was forced to accept the marriage.. a couple of months later the grandad recovered but it was the girl who had to suffer through all this.. there are some parents who would do all this just to make the girl marry someone of their choice..
awww that's sad to play with someone's emotions like that!
well, let's hope the "forced" marriage GAVE the girl a happy life... I mean she can always get to know her hubby
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Marriage is pretty much a chance that people take. Whether or not you marry someone your parents chose for you, you could end up in a very bad situation. The risk is always there.
Having said that, if I have to end up in a bad situation, I would rather that be on my own choice
lol - na, you NEED someone to blame on. If YOU choose the person and ended up in bad situation.. then it’s no fun blaming yourself - ummmm - mostly because we ALWAYS think we ARE right… so if the parents chose and you ended up in bad situation - you at least have parents to blame it on
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I dont think it is necessary to accept whomever your parents think you should get married to, however keeping giving it a shot is advisable as parents know us best and they look for a spouse accordingly or in the best of your interest plus its a much smoother affair and ALLAH na karey if somin goes wrong you always got your parents to blame
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What one gets after blaming one's parents?