Re: Parents approving you marrying a non-Desi?
No, i dont think so. Your presenting a one sided view of things.
In matters of liberation i didnt say "going against the grain"; rather there are more avenues opened to a person than one or two. Meaning, Desi society is filled with taboos and "dont do that!" and a very rigid and structured social system as well as a stratisfied social caste system.
In regards such a society where women are discouraged from working, discouraged from divorcing, and discouraged from showing themselves in public (not skin, just coming out in public) western society is much more liberal and utilitarian as opposed to Pakistani standards of decency which sometimes borders outright idiocy. "Keeping up with the Jones's" is a very stark mindset of the Pakistani people; along with "Hey Allah, parosi kya sochange??!!".
As far as sexuality goes, i would suspect, being a less sexual society, there is less sex. I am not totally feeling in the dark, as ive read in Psychology Class (introductory, for truths' sake) that more sexualized societies tend to be more risque and open to such "exploration" where closed societies put up brick walls and detour signs. And this goes outside of sexuality as it can be applied to anything.
Ive never been inside a couples' bedroom, but i dont have to. I can observe what must go on by the way their whole society acts in general. I am sure there are exceptions, but we are discussing society here, not picked individuals.
But i have yet to be married, probably later than sooner; and at this point in life i can wait to find out.