Pamper parties

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Hi all

Ok so I have my dd birthday next month and was thinking of doing a pamper party for her she’ll b 5.

It will inclu, mini manicure, pedicures, facial, hairstyling

Need some opinion a local salon do them for 6 yr +

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Would u allow ur daughters to go to o e if invited

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this sort of stuff is my nightmare. :s why can't they just do kid stuff - maybe have a mudpie party or dig for worms party.

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no offence but no i will not let my daughter attend this kind of party!

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Could i ask y, and none taken I was thinking of doing a princess theme party, I know loads of girls that like putting nail vanish on gitterly stuff n getting there hair done

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Again y Is it ur worse nightmare since when do lil girls like digging up worms o playing in mud

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N b4 u say it lols I've done the magician, bouncy castle type stuff for her previous birthday pArties not to mention fancy dress

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Sorry,but I think 5 years is too young for all this.I don't want my daughter to think mani/pedi, facial etc is ok at age 5.

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my daughter got invited to a kid spa party for her friend's 5th bday, it included manicure,pedicure ,hair and later music n dance.All the mommies were there n the girls were having so much fun, they knew that it was just a party where they could be fancy for a day n thats it.
Honestly speaking i dont think its too big of a deal or something really horrible, i loved being there ,watching all the kids having fun n ill definetly send my daughter to such a party..............but thats just my opionion.

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once in a while, as in once a year for someone's birthday, i would let my daughter attend. it would be something out of the norm so why not? same as she wouldn't go to a fancy dress party, jump around in a bouncy castle, or go to a petting zoo all the time. whether or not she thinks she's entitled to this treatment all the time after the party is up to me to handle and i'd like to think i could handle it well.

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I dont know about facials and stuff but my 2.5 year old loves putting nail color on. so i would probably do a little thing for her along with mehendi etc. I dont see any harm in it if its done once a year or something. It definetly wont be the norm.

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I actually hosted one at our shop once. :cb:

The girls were between 5 and 7 and they each had:

Mini manicures
Mini pedicures
Hairstyle (we used no product and literally just twisted their hair into pretty little patterns and clipped them up and sprayed with glitter)
Mehndi
Pictures

I attended a makeover party for a 6 year old where the mom had stations set up in different corners of her living room:

Nails
Hair
Makeup
They got these cute little tulle skirts to put on
Pictures

It seemed harmless and most of the moms were okay with it as long as the girls didn’t make a habit out of it.

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I think I would let my daughter attend, but with some hesitation and concern. I think the reason it's fun for them is that they are acting like their mommies, like grownups. They won't have any desire for it if they never see us doing it -- so if we don't like it for them, we need to keep that in mind. I don't mind nailpolish. Facials sound weird but fine. I don't like the idea of lipstick, eye make up, etc being encouraged.

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BecAuse to me this is shallow n I don't want her to think about make up, princess stuff etc at such a young age! I don't like children who act like grown ups and this all sounds eery grown up to me!

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^ but loving princesses seem to come naturally to most little girls (or at least the ones i know)- i don't see how you could avoid it actually if that is who they are. this reminds me of a good friend of mine from work who is a very laidback, mother earth/hippie type and just not into girly girl stuff at all. when she had her daughter she was completely astounded and bewildered initially because the mom herself is the farthest thing from it (doesn't wear makeup or get her hair done ever), her daughter is the girliest girl around since she could walk. loves all things pink and glittery, loves high heels, loves makeup and pretend play with princesses. my friend made her a handbag cake for her third birthday and when she showed her daughter, the first thing she said was, where are the shoes? lol that still makes me giggle. personalities are what they are. you might have a tomboy or you might have a girly girl- either way, i think its important to find the right balance between letting them have too much and keeping them away from it entirely. this little girl carries around books and a barbie in her little pink purse and when you ask her if she's pretty, she says no, i'm smart! hahaha. that sounds pretty good to me.

sahar, i think when they mean facials for 5 year olds they probably means a bit of a facewash and some moisturiser. like you said, its pretend play just like puttering around in the kitchen with mommy or daddy would be. i do agree, though, that as a habit its something i would highly discourage.

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What I remember is most of these kids weren't used to nail polish and such things. Generally speaking parents don't wan their kids to become too involved in beauty and ignore the more important things.

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I know what you mean..I have seen that happening but I just feel like girls don't look innocent when they act like grown ups n it's actually the make up that I have issues with.. Dressing up as a princess is cute but anything more than a dress and yes even the hair do, it doesn't look innocent to me...but then that's just how I was raised...I wasn't allowed to wear make up until after the age of 20 and now I don't feel the need fir it..no regrets!

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^ Yeah, I don't like the way they dress like adults.

But we do "pamper" our children. My daughter still gets her nightly massage after a calming lavender bath.

As for the princess stuff, my daughter has begun to identify the characters, without my making any effort to make them special. It's amazing!

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We attended one recently hosted by our neighbors for their daughter's 6th birthday. They are close friends so we went knowing it would be controlled. So the goody bags contained a little hairbrush, a tiny nail color, a lip balm and a temporary tattoo. The mom laid out 6 place settings for the girlies and all they did was put on gloss and nail paint that can be peeled off after it dries. It got over in a little bit. Then they had cake and snacks and played with toys. No harm done.

What I'm afraid of is dressing little girls up like pageant queens even for birthday parties. Or when that excessive red socks red shoes red clips red headband red frock and red leggings happens.

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i'd not have issues if "pamper" meant actual age-appropriate pampering. what worries me is the use of pedicures/manicures/facials etc as special occasion rewards opening up doorways to gender stereotyping peer pressure, the ugly world of beauty products and brand names, mental blocks towards certain useful activities, sports and even subjects, aversion towards being tough, picking friends based on looks/outfits etc. it is bad enough with the media's gender biases blasted at us everywhere.

i do feel girls can naturally be girly girls or tomboys, and that it isn't fair to impose restrictions on what form of play they prefer to indulge in. but i also think it is unfair to encourage them into this sort of "mimicking grownups" fun. it does not strike me as the same thing as being a girly girl, imho. and i dont see how it is at par with a bouncy castle or a petting zoo. a child's curiosity and memory are powerful things, i'd want them directed at positive influences as much as i can control it, which might not be all that long.

maybe i'm over-thinking it. and like someone said one pamper party wouldnt have any lasting impact. i'd only be comfortable sending her if she's well exposed to the joys of bugs, dirt, chasing after balls, rainwater puddles etc. lipstick shmipstick.. that is not what childhood's happiest moments should be about. definitely not at the age of 5. you are gonna lose your kid to this world anyway once she's a bit older.

(this stuff bugs me tons, i didnt mean to offend anyone)