Pakistanis and flat back of the head preferences...

[Sir_Dig_A_Lot]

Re: Pakistanis and flat back of the head preferences...

@Gamma Dilation

my mom was from karachi and made sure that my back of my head was perfectly flat. They kept tilted books at around 45 degrees at the back of my head. thus i have a flat head. This phenomena is less comman in punjabis.

I am a Punjabi and I have pictures with my pillow stuck between stack of books on its either side.

I'd have preferred to go with an all round oval head, I don't quite like the flat look. It's like wearing an outfit of your mom's choice for the rest of your life. There should be a way for infants to opt out of their parents' fashion choices.

[lakkis25]

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@SJToronto

Is it possible to make a childs round head flat? I know in the frontier, most Pashtuns pride themselves on their broad shoulders and flat heads. I heard my mother make a couple of comments about black people having big round heads and how Pashtuns have nice flat heads. I think since Pashtuns are seen as the ideal image for the majority of South Asians, I guess flat heads are apart of that too.

you guys take everything into pasthun,punjabi,sindhi

genreally kids head is very soft and if you don't take care abt it i will grow abnormally means if the baby keep laying on side that side will become flat,
so generally for new borns ppl tell take care of the head

[Mr_Fraudia]

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@Femme Fatale

amelie just make sure it doesnt go too flat and long. Please.

yeah coneheads wont be very hip for atleast a few centuries

[Raatkirani]

Re: Pakistanis and flat back of the head preferences...

@lakkis25

you guys take everything into pasthun,punjabi,sindhi

genreally kids head is very soft and if you don't take care abt it i will grow abnormally means if the baby keep laying on side that side will become flat, so generally for new borns ppl tell take care of the head

Actually, there are cultural preferences about head shape. One of my friends is from Multan, and she went through a lot of trouble to get that flat, longish look typical of that area. Even my MIL was able to guess their ethnicity by looking at their kids' heads! I personally don't like it, but whatever floats their boat. When I had my kids, my mom just had me change the baby's position every so often (like Faisal stated above) and put the baby on the stomach for a little while. when it was awake.

[lakkis25]

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@Raatkirani

Actually, there are cultural preferences about head shape. One of my friends is from Multan, and she went through a lot of trouble to get that flat, longish look typical of that area. Even my MIL was able to guess their ethnicity by looking at their kids' heads! I personally don't like it, but whatever floats their boat. When I had my kids, my mom just had me change the baby's position every so often (like Faisal stated above) and put the baby on the stomach for a little while. when it was awake.

Sorry i don't know that it has ethinical background, i saw everyone saying that

[saimanyc]

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@Cats Meow

well…dunno if it’s supposed to be flat…but babies sometimes have a tendency to lie with the weight on the side of the head (i.e. ear down) and this encourages the head to solidify in an oblong shape. It is this unattractive shape that my ammi always warned us to avoid.

so…in order to avoid this, we put a saucer (i.e. from a tea cup and saucer set) wrapped in a soft towel or flannel cloth underneath the child’s head. This way it takes greater effort for the child to turn its head to the side and it remains in the back down position.

other families also use little sandbags as pillows that conform to the shape of the head and serve the same purpose of preventing the child from naturally turning onto it’s sides.

hope that helps

Oh my God! My mil made me do the same with my first daughter by using a teacup saucer. I felt so bad for the poor thing. She preferred a particular side and still kept turning her head as we wrapped more and more stuff around her, practically binding her. But after my mil left to go back home, I’d just let my daughter sleep in any natural position she chose. Her head turned out beautifully rounded and proportionate. That’s beautiful to me, not this flathead nonsense. I did absolutely no shaping with my second daughter either and she looks great as well.

Rather than a sandbag my mil used a small rice filled pillow case. It was terrible. I don’t suggest any of these head shaping ideas. Previous to having kids I didn’t really know about head shaping because my mother never did it with us and we’re Pathan. My husband however mentioned to me that he always wondered why his head was flat in the back. LOL…and I told him about his mother’s headshaping and he called her up and said, "What did you do to me?"He prefers rounded as well. I don’t know what prompted this cultural preference for flat heads. Why is it special?

[Mr_Fraudia]

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still waiting on pics to figure out the differences and the devices used by the 'head shapers'

[Muzna]

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So I saw my nephew on Sunday and pointed out to my sister that his head is oddly shaped from the back.

The chubby Sufiyaan has preferred his left side since the day he was born and now that side of his head is ever so slighty flatter than the right.

I guess if you are trained to see this type of stuff (cuz your mother programmed it into your head by drilling it into the bhabhis, ), then it really sticks out at you.

I told her she was gonna get it from her MIL!!! Especially since I used to pitch a fit every time I saw him lying on that side…