I actually agree with you. Asian women in the west are more insecure. .......Pakistani girls in the west are taught "dont wear this, so and so will start talking if you go there, dont hang around white people, wear your hair like this, dont talk to boys" etc etc this leads to confusion, because kids are living in two different cultures - **........
......if the girl decides to get a job and postpone getting married, she sacrifices the happiness of her family and eventually her family could even reject her for making her own choices in life. This is where the insecuritiy comes from.**
I respectfully disagree. I think that the essence of a successful and worthy life lies in the everyday struggle of trying to figure out who you are and what your values should be. Exposure to both cultures makes them stronger and more aware. I dont see how it would make one more insecure. Does such confusion about values lead to insecurity? I dont think so. To me confusion about values should only lead a sane person to question and to question is the way to self-discovery.
A** lot of girls do in fact follow on with what they want to do**, even when they come from strict families and a consequence of this is that they loose the support system of their family. In Pakistan today - the support system of family is always there, whereas in the west the support system of a family isnt required. There are thousands and thousands of Muslims/Pakistani/Asians and non Asians who live away from their family .i.e not in the same household as their parents, whilst still unmarried. This is the biggest source of insecurity. I
You say they have moved out on their own...they follow what they want. It would seem that they are strong and independent individuals rather than insecure ones to move out and support themselves despite no family support? so again...if you acknowledge they have moved out on their own and are independent women...then it follows they wouldnt be possessive of husbands (sticking to the topic). because i think a woman who needs family support would hesitate to move out in the first place.