so overall, are Pakistani women more possessive than Pakistanis living in west?
Re: Pakistani women, more possessive?
possessive of what?
Re: Pakistani women, more possessive?
their husbands im assuming....
Re: Pakistani women, more possessive?
this is a relationships forum i believe! so yes husbands!
Re: Pakistani women, more possessive?
Well im pakistani and im not possesive at all. If you love someone...love them completely. Im in a relationship for 4 years now...we love each other madly. We have great understanding and respect each others space friends freedom. I've even told him if you find someone who loves you more than me...you are free to go...I even tease him sometimes about the girls who work at his office...We have a beautiful relationship and we know we are so attached we can never let go of each other. There is no promise or pressure thats holding us together but love and only love.
Re: Pakistani women, more possessive?
Yes. I am possessive and proud of it! :)
Re: Pakistani women, more possessive?
**And what about Pakistani husbands who are possessive of their wives to the point they are breathing down their necks? **
Oh right, we don’t talk about that! Gotcha 
**And whats so bad about a women who is possessive of his husband? Most men I know like their women to be reasonably possessives but not to the point they are dictating. There is a fine line. 
**
Re: Pakistani women, more possessive?
Possessiveness, jealousy and insecurity are ugly traits that transcend race and gender.
Re: Pakistani women, more possessive?
Im not possessive at all...maybe something is wrong with me...lol. I just cannot seem to bring myself to get all riled up over what a guy does.
If I feel like I cant trust him, I wont be with him because I dont want to worry about what he is doing all the time. Its tooooooooooo much effort in a relationship and there are better things to do with my time than getting jealous/possessive.
I dont like possessiveness, jealousy or insecurity...very non-productive and actually can hurt the relationship rather than build it.
Re: Pakistani women, more possessive?
^ PSquared, I used to think like you. The reality came and hit me real hard. He couldn't make it more obvious that I am all he really sees so it's not that he does anything to make me jealous, or that there are trust issues. But whenever some girl talks to him with extra friendliness - I care a LITTLE bit.
But I am too proud and absolutely hate showing that I am jealous so I just pretend it doesn't bother me at all - somehow I don't think it's very effective though.
Its god that youre straight up, straight up.
^ PSquared, I used to think like you. The reality came and hit me real hard. He couldn't make it more obvious that I am all he really sees so it's not that he does anything to make me jealous, or that there are trust issues. But whenever some girl talks to him with extra friendliness - I care a LITTLE bit.
But I am too proud and absolutely hate showing that I am jealous so I just pretend it doesn't bother me at all - somehow I don't think it's very effective though.
Re: Pakistani women, more possessive?
lol, those who say these are ugly traits. come on, only natural to be jealous. i was asking if Pakistani women abroad are less possessive than the ones livin in pakistan
lol, those who say these are ugly traits. come on, only natural to be jealous. i was asking if Pakistani women abroad are less possessive than the ones livin in pakistan
Yes, after a certain extent, jealousy and possessiveness are huge turn-offs.
And like i said....these traits can be found in every demographic you can find.
Do you want us to make a sweeping statement about which is worse and justify it with their cultural upbringing and mental psyches?
Re: Pakistani women, more possessive?
There actually is a sub-group I think in Desi culture of overly possessive gals...the ones who would not even consider marrying a non-virgin guy or even a guy who has had a past relationship. Ive met one or two of those...and they seem almost obsessed about the whole thing. The type that wants her guy to look at her and her alone, dont you dare notice or care if you see a beautiful woman, wants constant attention and affection etc etc.
Not the majority for sure...but they're out there. Not as much in western culture because its almost a given here that both guys and gals have had a relationship before.
Re: Pakistani women, more possessive?
I dnt know...
Ive been in a relationship before where the guy was SOOOOOOOOOO jealous, he literally policed everything I ever did. It was suffocating to the point where he had a problem if I went to Devon (famous desi street in Chicago) with my family to shop! We were engaged and it just kept growing to the point where I had no freedom to do anything at all. I couldnt hang out with my friends, couldnt go to the mall without telling him, couldnt leave the house without calling him first, etc. It was HORRIBLE and he was nuts. Needless to say, that didnt work out.
I guess Ive been turned off by this behavior? A little bit of jealousy is fun like if a girl starts to stare at him or flirt with him, I'd be amused. I wouldnt get upset over it or start to restrict him from things. I have to be able to trust him.
Re: Pakistani women, more possessive?
I do know one girl who says she wants a guy who has NEVER been in love with another girl, never had feeling sfor someone etc... but to be fair she too has been saving herself for her husband (and stop thinkin dirty ppl..i mean emotinoally!)
Re: Pakistani women, more possessive?
I guess women in west are much more insecure compare to one's in pak.
I wont blame them, They have reason to feel so.
I believe its same for guys too.
Re: Pakistani women, more possessive?
^ You think its women in the west who are more insecure Jimmy bhai? How come?
Re: Pakistani women, more possessive?
All of my sisters in laws (cousins wives) who have came over from Pakistan are completely possessive about their husbands. They keep tabs on them 24/7. At one point, we, the female cousins were not even allowed to talk to our married male cousins due to what their wives would say. Some of them dont even allow their husband to talk to their own mothers alone. Its beyond silliness.
My step monster was a possessive nut aswell. Our father wasnt allowed to communicate with us in English as she couldnt understand it too well. Monster indeed.
^ You think its women in the west who are more insecure Jimmy bhai? How come?
you call me bhai, so can't fight.
I just agree with you.