Pakistani Women Marrying Non-Desi

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I see nothing wrong with marrying outside of desi's as long as the person is muslim. Now how to work out the cultural differences etc is up to the couple...I have seen people doing it wonderfully and some are too stuck on their ego or "my way or the highway" thinking that have difficult marriages....but that can be an issue in any marriage.

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For me the differences make things more interesting, I'd love if one of my kids married a desi, another one white, another black :D

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^lol ... you want to have a free stay-plan around the world, wherever you travel eh? :D ... hahahah

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I would not have any problem with it as long as the guy is Muslim. I personally know a few desi families around here whose daughters are married to non-desi men and nobody makes a big deal of it.

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So, if he's muslim, its ok. But if he's not muslim, its not ok? You guys don't frown much if a muslim man wants to marry a nonmuslim girl. In fact, our own Kimble in another thread professes he is in love with a non-muslim. No dumping on there...?

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That's right. If he's not Muslim then it's not ok. It's not even a marriage as far as I'm concerned, regardless of what any legal documents say.

I was just responding to your question about letting a daughter marry a non-desi. Even for sons, I would not encourage marriage to a non-Muslim, but Muslim non-desi is fine.

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i dont really know if i support a girl marrying a non-muslim. sorry. eventhough a mother spends more time grooming a child, but it's the father, and his family usually that dictate the rules of the house. and any such situation where a girl can claim that no her children will be muslim, and showcase herself as a valid exception ... i still dont have any correct answer for that, nor have i found one ... so if someone is willling to help me out here ... of course i dont want statements like cuz Allah says so!
Also the fact that i dont believe that the Quran says things that are in favor for a majority (some people may argue that) ... i think Quran is pretty detailed and mentions all sorts of exceptions and criteria. So whats the exception rule in this case? cuz as far as i know,a muslim girl cannot marry outside of religion cuz the kids will go far from The religion. and Islam tries to bring people IN to it and not make them go out of it.
spread the religion and it's "army"

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I think it goes from person to person, i personally cannot marry a non desi, maybe cuz i am as desi as desi can be :smiley:

P.S everyone has a right to their opinion and ahve their own choices, i dont think its any different for guys then girls :k:

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Woah a Desi Asiaphile. So you're attracted to Asians based on shallow perceptions, yeah? Nice nice.

Good to see that your parents are willing to support your yellow fever.

As a Muslim you should know better. So don't question us, question your faith.

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A girl marrying a non-muslim is explicitly not allowed in our religion .... which is why most muslims would not find this ok.

As for guys - from what I know he can marry a girl of the book.

<< Allowing a Muslim man to marry a Christian or a Jewish woman, is an exceptional rule applied under special circumstances. And when a Muslim man marries a Christian or a Jewish woman, there is no problem, because he believes in all prophets, and all holy books. There will be no problem between him and his wife in this matter, especially that his religion -Islam- commands him to be fair with his wife even if she were Christian or Jewish. And any Muslim man going through such marriage should have strong belief in his faith, and should strongly abide by his religion.

The reason for forbidding a Muslim woman from marrying a non-Muslim, is that a Christian or a Jewish man believes only in his prophet, and doesn’t believe in prophet Mohamed Salla Allah Allih Wa Salam or any of the other prophets (blessing be upon them)

For example, when this Muslim woman, tries to teach her kids to love and respect all prophets and believe in all of them, her non-Muslim husband will not agree, because he believes only in his prophet. He will interfere in the way she raises her kids, and prevents her from raising them in an Islamic way. And here comes the real problem, because she will have only two options, whether she leaves the whole thing as it is, and does nothing about it -which will be an insult to her religion- or she argues about the matter, and this will sure lead to more marital problems.

On the other hand, there will be no such problems between a Muslim husband, and a non Muslim wife, because if this wife tried to teach her kids to love and believe in her prophet, her Muslim husband will not refuse that because he already believes in her prophet and all prophets. This is why Islam allows the marriage between Muslim man and non-Muslim woman, and forbids the marriage between Muslim woman, and non-Muslim man.** Because Islam respects the marital relationship and wants to guarantee its stability, not because it respects men, and disrespects women** … >>

But yea... if a muslim guy is professing that he wants to marry a Hindu girl??? Im sure there will be a lot more people that will be hating on that.

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No way I would marry a gori, they are just too far apart from the likes of us desis. Plus my family would not accept it.

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The Heart wants what it wants. Attraction is shallow because most of the time it is based on looks. How many times have you gotten to know a person before seeing them?

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My family would not have a problem with that at all. They believe in good people, not color or culture.

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why are u so obsessed with inter-racial relationships ?
several girls who i know married white and black guys , if they are happy who am i to judge

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I'd maybe want to marry a latino... but a Pakistani guy is right for me, that's my preferance. I know of very few Pakistani girls who marry other ethnicities. Usually the closest you can get to that is a Pakistani girl marrying an Indian guy. I think parents should be more open to marrying other nationalities, it makes the family more interesting.

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i dont think there should be any problem in marrying someone with a different ethnicity, that is as long as the couple have things(cultural differences etc) sorted out between themselves and they both belong to the *same faith. *

well everyones entitled to their own opinions as long as they dont disrespect and start dictating other peoples lives.

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I also don't think it's that common for desi men to want to marry 'goriyan', most desi men I know prefer pakistani larkiyan to be honest not that there is anything wrong with that.

Myself I preferred to marry a pakistani, attraction, language etc drew me to that, and I have also many excellent examples of husbands/fathers/brothers who are pakistani and treat their women amazingly so I cant disrespect them as I have not had a bad experience. I.e my brother treats his wife like a queen, same as my dad how he treats us, my mum and all the other women in the family so I did grow up thinking of pakistani men as protectors, providers and strong characters to be honest, hence I wanted to marry one and alhamdulillah had a very good experience.

I know it's not all hunky dory and there are a few bad men (as well as women) who let the pakistani community down. It's not down to them being pakistani, it's narrow mindedness and lack of education and deen. A man who follows the truth of deen can not and will not ever treat their women badly.

Ever heard of that hadith? 'The best of you are those who are good to their wives'. Says it all.

I can understand why some women may hate pakistani men because they have seen the odd few bad eggs, but girls I assure you that if you meet a good pakistani man he will be one of the best ones inshAllah, so don't be so narrow minded and give pakistani men a chance ;-) they are not that bad! Honest!

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I want my kids to know Urdu and Punjabi. That's all.

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Correction.

"The Reproductive Organs want what they want." << That's where shallow attraction comes from. Don't make it a matter of heart.

I don't have a problem with your fetish, I just think that the
horizon of your mind is very limited in this matter. Anyway, whatever you do, just don't tell the "jackpot" you're going to be with someday that you were attracted to him because he belongs to a particular race.

Good luck.

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^ Nothing wrong with being attracted to Asians, or guys from any other race for that matter.

Why do YOU want to dictate to others what they should 'want'?