Your thoughts? Would you be ok with a girl in your family marrying into another culture? Are you currently looking outside the culture for your girl?
Just sayin’ because looks like all the brown guys are dipping for whiter beaches, so I’m wondering what your back-up plans are.
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have one cousin married to an englishman, one to a texan a second cousin married to a french dude,
plus my bhabhis sister is married to a portuguese dude.
so no biggie really, they liked who they liked, and got married.
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I can think of it if Tom Curise or George Clooney look alike proposes to me 
On serious note I think its a difficult decision. For me I want the desi touch in my husband coz i myself am very desi. And above all the thought of my kids being completely cut off from our culture and country doesnt allow me to go for a gora. Also it will make it really difficult to keep my kids on islam. I foresee myself as a mother who will invest too much time n energy in her kids grooming, so they become nice muslims and decent human beings. But its going to be a challenge anyway, why i make it more tougher for me by marrying a gora.
I am sure my parents will not agree either 
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Yet parents readily agree when their son announces he’s going to marry a gori, and these issues don’t crop up in the minds of those men and their family members. Although, ironically, a woman spends more time with her kids, and arguably shapes them more in terms of spirituality than a guy. If she is not praying at home, if she doesn’t build in Islamic principles into their daily habit, then it’s definitely gonna be harder for the husband to accomplish that. You don’t see it getting in their way.
So, Fairytale, give it up. Enjoy the gora rang. 
Gora rung ka zamana hai…
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how many good little desi muslim kids do we see coming out of pure desi households?
marry good people... marry someone who understands u and vice versa.
didnt grow up with family outside of pakistan, but know a lot of desi kids... and i can say, a number of the desi gals went and married gore laug.. and bless them. There were no desi men who were willing to marry independant desi women earning more than them.. LOL..
and our community has been quite accepting of them
I have a cousin married to a decent Moroccan guy, and personally while i prefers my Son in Law to be Pakistani, but i would accept anyone as long as Muslim and good person.
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Since I was little I have never been that attracted to desi men. I would always be attracted to oriental men/boys. I find the average chupta better looking than the average Pakistani. So I am telling my parents to start with the Asians when they start looking for potential husbands, and if I dont hit the jackpot we can start looking at other ethnicity's including desi. Luckily my parents are more than willing to accept people of different ethnicity's into the family. Also it would be fun to cause some kind of scandal in the family.
Anyone else go through this where you are really attracted to one race? Or am the only one. I have a desi friend who is really attracted to black people.
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More power to them. We are not desi women where we have hang ups on such issues.
Since I was little I have never been that attracted to desi men. I would always be attracted to oriental men/boys. I find the average chupta better looking than the average Pakistani. So I am telling my parents to start with the Asians when they start looking for potential husbands, and if I dont hit the jackpot we can start looking at other ethnicity's including desi. Luckily my parents are more than willing to accept people of different ethnicity's into the family. Also it would be fun to cause some kind of scandal in the family.
Anyone else go through this where you are really attracted to one race? Or am the only one. I have a desi friend who is really attracted to black people.
You are very rare indeed.
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Miyaan Bewi razi . . . tu kiya karay ga qazi :p
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LMAO! I agree. If your wife agrees for you to marry a second gori by all means do it. Also under islamic courts I believe the fact that she was half asleep is not a valid defence :D
I think people atleast in the west are becoming a bit more open minded to their girls marrying a muslim who is not-desi … but BORN muslim. It is still scandalous if she marries a non-desi AND a non-muslim (even if he decides to convert). 
We are seeing more and more desi girls marrying guys of arab or irani descent in our community… no one really bats an eye.
I personally wanted a desi guy because I am really desi myself and raising kids in a 100% pakistani culture is important to me… but I see nothing wrong with a girl marrying into another culture. :shrugs: To each their own.
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Not an issue. Whatever floats your boat, as they say.
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^ I agree with Jaanwar BUT the guy has to be a Muslim. That's just my preference.
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my mom has one rule - he must be muslim...other than that he can be of any race/nationality/color :P
but i myself am a huge paki patriot ..and cant imagine marrying anyone but a pakistani lol :D
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^ since PCG posted the question, I gave an unconditional answer. She has a set of her own strict criteria. Like… a beating pulse for example. :k:
Are we related?
Like Jaanwar said, whatever floats your boat. I got married quite young anyway, so my Frenchie was my first love. It’s always been my family’s criteria that i marry a Muslim, and that i did. And yes, he was a Muslim [revert] before i met him.
And this was back in my day when i think it wasn’t as socially acceptable as it is now…but the people around me were pretty relaxed about this sort of stuff…
If i did not get married at the age that i did, was getting on a bit with regards to age, and was not having any luck with the Pakistani diaspora, then for sure i would “broaden my horizons” so to speak. I don’t think you should limit yourself.
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It's pretty normal. Why should we restict ourselves? As I said before so long as you get along, there is mutual interests, you are religiously matched then there shouldnt be any issues...I think as long as the guy/girl is a muslim it's perfectly acceptable.
Normally you see more practising girls marry out of culture with reverts or other ethnicities. Reverts will not usually marry an average desi girl who is more cultured rather than into the deen and vice versa. I know many girls who are married out of the 'pakistani' culture but these girls married good decent practising guys, as they themselves followed this lifestyle.
Or you see other extreme desi girls who don't really care about their religion and will marry anyone regardless of their religion and background.
The middle ground is, desi's normally marry desi's.
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one of my cousin is married to Mexican girl (she converted and better muslim now than him and myself). Both are mashallah living happily. Off course things arise every now and then but then things happen in same culture marriages too. Mexican culture (like food, celebrations, family system etc) being near to Paksitani culture helped
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born and raised pakistani. married a convert dutchie (who, may i say, is a better Muslim than myself, but a great boost for me get closer to my own religion) ... nobody had any issue in my immediate family. things went so smooth alhamdullilah, that we sometimes wonder how that was possible. my father is the eldest brother, ETs in my family couldnt really say much anyways, since he was my biggest support. :D
i was completely SICK of pakistani men and their mentality. i am very happy MA :)