Re: Pakistani Wedding (why Are People Always Late ???),
There were still people who showed up after the dinner was over and they weren’t happy… oh well – tough luck! They might have learnt their lesson that they can’t always take their sweet time and should respect the host’s wishes – esp. when they’ve been previously advised.
I think we are somewhat losing perspective here. It's supposedly one of the most special days of our life, and we have asked our near and dear ones to be a part of this happy occassion. Basically they are doing us a favor by showing up, no two ways of looking at it. The moment we decided to give in to culture, be it to please our parents or however we wanna put it ( I mean hey, none of it is farz even) i.e. printed out the cards, bought the ring, invited 324234 ppl ( desis included), we made a conscious choice, and its our responsibility to see it to the end. So those of us who are more interested in teaching the guests a lesson or two rather than the guests' right to a proper meal, we should probably take some time out to re-prioritize (the stress can do strange things to your psyche) and focus on the basics. And maybe being a good host will take precedence over other matters which are nothing but minor inconveniences if you ask me. And if it's such big hassle for us and if we feel so strongly about it that we couldn't be bothered to put up with someone's sense of timing (or lack thereof), then let's not invite them. Simple enough. So much for being "right " and doing the "right thing" all the time.