pakistani society and gold

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Do I need to wear sonay ki chooriyan, rings and chains to fit in or the trend has changed and women don’t care about this stuff anymore?

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I think they dont care anymore, nowdays they are more into iphones, bb's, jimmy choo, LV.

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I had the same question. Its confusing for me cause the family friends on my parents side, they care very much about married woman wearing their gold, especially at weddings, eid, parties, etc. But then on my in-laws side, I havent seen anyone (not even my married nands) wearing gold on any occasion, even at my wedding.

So when I first got married, I used to wear my jewelery at parties and weddings, but it seems like no one on my in laws side (family or friends) does it. So when its a party on my in laws side, I will only wear the gold choorian my MIL gave me, no other jewelery. But if the function is from my parents side (family or friends), I usually wear a little more.

But in all honesty, I dont think people care anymore. I have seen new brides not wearing any gold at all, just wearing choorian that match their outfits, and earrings that are not gold.

Wear what you are comfortable wearing, dont worry about other people.

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oh please don't get me started on this......

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good because I don't have any.

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I think you should get a large diamond studded platinum necklace that says "Pachas Paisa". You can be the Muslim, Desi, female equivalent to 50 Cent.

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pakistani society and gold

I think the trend has changed now. i dont see a lot of my friends in pk or here wearing such stuff.
I hate the gold ki bangles and chains and rings. I'm more happy with delicate stuff from Tiffany and Swarovski. And besides I don't care what ppl say.

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its a pain in the backside. unless i sell it.

i have so much, its annoying. i dnt ever wear it, or like it, yet i pay zakat etc on it. i know zakat isnt something to run away from, but its just aheadache for me i prefer to sell it, but id be shot down by my mum ( who gave over half) and mil ( who gave the rest)...

and my mums kept the gold her mums mum gave her, how would she feel if i sold what she bought me....

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Alhumdullillah that at the time of my wedding , I pressurized my parents to only give me minimum gold .. and the same is the case with my inlaws .. and at that time what ever I chose was tiny , delicate stuff .. stuff you can wear in day to day life .. and just one or two slightly fancy stuff for occasions ..
At that time everyone screamed at me for doing this .. but I reap the benefits today :cb:

Regards Choori’s , I see them as a secure investment not as jewellery. I use just one or two bangles out of the set ..using them as borders or centerpoint with the usual kanch choori’s ..

Excessive and large gold items can run out of fashion , but delicate stuff coupled with other forms of jewellery cant , we just gotta be smart about it ..

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im soooooooooooo selling mine soon, its double in profit for me now if i sell, and i need a deposit for a house...should bring me some money.

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pakistani society and gold

My mom is a big believer in getting gold for us. Actually all forms of tasteful Jewellery in gold, white gold, diamond and also Chandi/silver. My Khala's are very against it as they say girls nowadays just save up for cars and houses. But I do agree that gold pehenay se nazakat aati hai. I'm not into costume Jewellery at all. Just hav a few small tiny gold/white gold sets that I wear and they look gd . Nothing over the top. And gold churiyan are an investment indeed .

It's true that in this new world, saving for a house, education or a car is a better goal than making gold. But having a little gold as a form of investment can't hurt . :-)

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pakistani society and gold

Oh and you should also include the Indian community. The Indian Muslim community I know, they invest very much in gold. They usually have a paid off Ghar and lots of gold :D

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it was necessary to include the bolded part, right? :wink:

the tradition of providing gold was meant to provide financial stability…to ensure that the money was secure for their daughter. somewhere along the line this sentiment was lost.

the majority of gold given at the time of weddings simply sits in lockers and we continue to shell out zakat on it every year.

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If you are going to Karachi, you will only want to do that if you have intention of getting robbed :bummer:

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I see it as a good investment. I don't work so I see this as something that's just mine. I don't ever wear it though but I prefer to keep it. Never know when I will need it. It's a good idea to sell it if you think you are paying zakat and never using the jewelry. I don't mind paying zakat since I don't have a whole lot of jewelry.

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Oh and on topic... I don't ever wear it. I don't even like gold.

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I never wear gold, but it is an investment. In today's age, not a lot of girls wear it (where I am anyways), BUT, it's still valued, and it's still given when girls get married

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pakistani society and gold

Trend has changed. Save it as an investment.

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please..do share....

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nah...it's okay......the wave came and subsided......thankfully.