Anyone here know of a club or a social network for Pakistani Senior Citizens in Los Angeles? I have an elderly father who really needs to get a life. I am at my wits end to find something for him.
Thanks all!
Anyone here know of a club or a social network for Pakistani Senior Citizens in Los Angeles? I have an elderly father who really needs to get a life. I am at my wits end to find something for him.
Thanks all!
Sabah, I don't mean to judge you, but that attitude seems pretty harsh to me to speak of your father in that way. Personally, I think The best social network for elderly people is their own family. Older people like to be involved in their childrens and grandchildren's lives, not just sit there and with other elderly people playing bingo. I know it's not easy, but it is the best way.
Your dad's not going to be there forever. Enjoy him while you have him.
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send him to uk there are many in manchester more groups than elderly people and all are on papers to get money from council
Anyone here know of a club or a social network for Pakistani Senior Citizens in Los Angeles? I have an elderly father who really needs to get a life. I am at my wits end to find something for him.
Thanks all!
What a shame....
so insensitive
Why don't you send him back to Pakistan ?
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What could a social network or a club possibly do to help him getting 'a life'? If you as a child is having a hard time getting around to making him feel at ease/at home, then wonder what a bunch of strangers could do. Is he visiting you from back home and is bored out of his mind for not getting the love, care, respect and attention he deserves?
Erm.. maybe she was joking?
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maybe she didnt mean it that way ..
I think it’s you who need a life not your Father 
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At least show some respect for your Father…
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Sabah, it sounds like you're frustrated about not finding a pakistani social club for your dad. So why not look into other seniors clubs in the area? Theres a nationwide org alled AARP, its inexpensive to join and he may be able to find other Pakistani seniors thru there. I dont know where else you've tried - but many towns have senior citizens groups and activities.
Sorry to say that MO3 the person who couldn't get along with his child can't get along to gorays at all. That could be a big problem. As gorays won't stand him by being Pakistani and muslim neither his behaviour.
What if he doesn't know english at all. Your mashwara's to desies sounds ajeeb to me.
Our old ppl don't like gorays that much and I saw your old ppl don't like us too. lol Goray oldies more bad than our oldies as the don't go after other religion ppl out of nothing. lol
As one budhdhi ooops sorry came from her seat in bus there were many seats empty asked me get up I politely asked why? as I thought if she needed my help she said I want to sit here. I got up sat on next seat out of respect. She kept ghooring me angrily for long time then I start muskuraing at her then she gone mad and stop ghooring me.
What is did before getting on bus you are not in line so go back and there was no line ppl were standing here and there and was a big group she pushed me wanted to go first out of respect I let her go first as she was behind me. lol
Once a mota budhdha came left many empty seats came way back in the bus asked me to get up I asked he said I want to sit here I said there are many empty seats he budtamizili said I want to sit here. I said ok got up and sit on other seat. He kept burbaraing and looking at me and I start muskuraing at him lol In my heart I said You Illitereate person Won because my religion taught me to be good with all especially elders. I always give seat to elders to make my Allah happy.
The funny thing was that kharoos had a bible in his hand. lol and was behaving like a jahil.
Your budhdays are worst then our budhaays so it would be hard time for his/her dad and for him to if there is any case.
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Sabah I can feel you. It might be hard for you to tolerate an old person. He might be giving you a very tough time so you said that way. I'm sure you would be a good person.
I've seen a kharoos person whom even his own children couldn't bardast. Oh my Allah he is so gross. As I lived my that relatives place for few days. I've seen him. He don't even care about any person. Give galies to the bahoo. Who khidmat him. His own daught can't live with him.
It's better to find some old person to stay with him sometimes to have a chit chat. In old age old ppl need attention, love, caring. Yeah they need that to own kids or grand kids but if you can't find some old ppl to have some chit chat for few hours.
Aaj aap unko bardasht karain Allah ki khushi kay liaay. Kaal jaanay burhapay main aap ki dimaghi halat kia ho to aap kay buchchay aap ko is tarha kaheen phaiknay ka naheen sochain gay. Quran main takeed ki gai hai burhapay main waldain ko bardasht karna. Waqai bohat himmat ki baat hai. Laikin kitna bachain gay jitna ho sakay bardasht karain aur aap khud unko time zaroor dain.
Meri dua hai Allah aap ki madad karay ghar kay tamaam afraad ko unko bardaasht karnay ki salahiaat day balkay bohat barha day aur Allah aap kay walid achcha rakhay kay wo achcha behave kar sakain.
To tell you the truth my dadi was living with my chachi never came to visit us rarely. I don't even recal 2 or 3 times.
She use live in very close to my house like 2 gali behind. She use to go to my other relative passing our door chupkaysay sometimes we saw her.
But I use to go also chupkaysay from my mom as she didn't allow me to visit my aunt house. At that time I thought might be MIL jealousy or may be she doesn't visit us. But I always loved her dearly. I thought unka mamla hay laray jhagrain ya milain naheen main kioon khud ko involve karoon. (Note: I never saw them laring in my life). I knew very well that they don't like us at all she use to love my other cousins also use to tont me and say things about my mom. I always said let them do. I never told my mom what they say. How they tont me.
I always use to go in love just to make her happy. I use to listen her stories. After sunaing her story she becomes happy. Most of the time that wasn't interesting to me. and her voice most of the time I couldn't hear but what I use to do when she use to laugh I use to laugh always nodding my head. lol. She was very happy with me as my cousins never gave a damn lift to her they even use to hurt her. But she always keep all the time tareefing about them in front of me. They were so very loosers I knew that very well she even use to do jhooty tareefing them. I never said a single word.
She always use to ask why you came and I use to say "main aap say milnay aya hoon". She use to become happy and say burhiya say milnay aya hai. Koi naheen ata.
But she use to give me some of her mewa (dry fruits) which father use to give her and she use to keep them in locks and she never use to give to my cousins lol. She use to give me that little mewa very chupa kar from cousin. lol
In old age if you would try it would be easy for you to tolerate them. Find out what he likes. What he likes to talk about. What he likes to do. Make him busy in something that interest him. I found that old ppl love to tell their old things to ppl. Better to listen about them. Agar ghar main buchchay hain to unko laga dain unkay peechay kay kahani sunain donon khush hon gay buchchay bhi and dada bhi. Buchchon kay school kaam main help karnay ko laga dain. Agar parhay likhay naheen hain to buchchon ko kahain unko apnay poem yaad kar kay sunain. Unko bhi yaad karwain. Agar english main hain to unko maani batain. Yani buchcay dada ko maanay batain.
Chahal qadmi pay lay jaain.
Buchchon ko park main lay jain unkay saath. Khailnay kahain apas main.
Akhbar la kar dain agar parh saktain hain to. agar parh naheen saktay to aap kuch achchi achchi khabrain sunain. Stories bhi sunain.
Un say Pakistan kay halaat pay guftugu karain. Siyasat pay guftugu karain jaisa kay mard hazraat pasand kartay hain.
Apnay buchpun ki batain poochain un say sunain apnay buchpun ki kahaniaan ya apnay buchchon ko sunaina kahain aap kay buchpun ki kahaniaan.
Buchchay aur booray pyaar, mohabbat aur caring chahtay hain. Buchchay aur boorhay aik dosray kay bohat achchay dost bun saktay hain buchchon ko sikha kar unkay peechay laga dain. Mera mutlub tunk karnay kay liaay naheen jaisay baaz bahooain marnay peetnay ka sikha deti hain dada dadi ko. Balkay unko apnay kamom main involve karnay ka.
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We dont really have the whole story here so theres really no need to beat her up over this. The man may be lonely and in need of company his own age because as sabah said, she is at her wits end to find something for him. That sounds to me like she has been bending over backwards to find a social activity that her father would enjoy. It didnt sound to me like she wants to be rid of him at all but rather is desperately seeking some sort of activity that would cheer up an unhappy elder. Which can be frustrating but also shows love and compassion yeah?
Gr8, you may be right but when my husbands grandfather was with us, he was quite the novelty and very popular with the goray elders. It was exciting for them to meet someone of an entirely different culture and background and he was therefore very popular. The elder ladies were all quite gracious to him and we would tease him about how they were all fluttering eyelashes at him!
You never know till you try, yeah? If he can speak at least rudimentary english, it may be quite a pleasant surprise for him to find himself at the center of attention amongst people his own age even though they have different backgrounds. You're never to old to learn about different people, places and things.
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Trying is not bad but some oldies are very hard to deal either side.
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How about joining the local masjid. He can help with fundraising or volunteering in numerous other acitivites that the masjid board is involved in.
Also maybe teaching at a Sunday School. It's very time consuming :)
Also look at classes at the local community school. he can take classes for senior citizens to learn a new language or trips for seniro citizens. They even take group trips to the mueseums.
How about joining the local masjid. He can help with fundraising or volunteering in numerous other acitivites that the masjid board is involved in.
Also maybe teaching at a Sunday School. It's very time consuming :)
Also look at classes at the local community school. he can take classes for senior citizens to learn a new language or trips for seniro citizens. They even take group trips to the mueseums.
Awww what a gr8 ideas.
Loved them all.
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I know exactly what this poster means, my dad pretty much sits around the house, in front of the tv, in front of the computer, all freaking day. He helps with the granddaughter a LOT, no doubt, but it's not healthy to limit your socializing to the same 4 people for the rest of your life, it's like prison.
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Ask you dad to get some hobbies and a part time job.
My dad is in his sixties but still works 50 hours a week in security (after taking retirement from govt job) and has about a 2-3 home improvement projects going on as well and he still finds the time to take my mom shopping, playing with his grand kids and visiting all his relatives.
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Elderly father that needs to get a life???
Sheesh woman
Send him to YMCA