Is there really a difference? The reason I ask is because a very good friend of mine is an Indian Muslim and she’s been looking for a rishta but she’s only been focusing on Indian Muslims.. why? Even she’s not sure but he HAD to be Indian Muslim.
Over the weekend her mom tried to set her straight by telling her you’re marrying a person, NOT a country and that she should consider the Pakistani rishtas that come her way. So is there really a difference between and Indian Muslim and Pakistani Muslim (shia/sunni thing aside) other than the country?
Depends on person. Some people can ignore cultural differences and can go on to build a great relationship but for some minor cultural details are too important and in such case its better to marry in same cultural setup.
Is there really a difference? The reason I ask is because a very good friend of mine is an Indian Muslim and she's been looking for a rishta but she's only been focusing on Indian Muslims.. why? Even she's not sure but he HAD to be Indian Muslim.
Over the weekend her mom tried to set her straight by telling her you're marrying a person, NOT a country and that she should consider the Pakistani rishtas that come her way. So is there really a difference between and Indian Muslim and Pakistani Muslim (shia/sunni thing aside) other than the country?
In this case the mother's trying to set her straight? that's...unique.
I honestly dont' see the difference. maybe in dialect, some words here and there....but not so much that a marriage between the two would fail (god forbid).
Wow…so her parents are fine with her considering Pakistani rishtas. And your friend herself can not provide an explanation behind her decision to pursue only Indian Muslims?!
I have Indian, Pakistani, and Bangladeshi Muslim friends and other than differences in cultural stuff (what part of India is your friend from and what language does her family speak?)…I don’t really see a big difference between the three.
Ninja, Niksik, and KKF could highlight on Indian Muslim perspective. I will not say that Indian and Pakistani Muslims share same culture. Even the one who migrated from India 60 years ago are different and unique and you may find so many new enhanced cultural practices due the new adopted country and influences of other local culture. Indian within their geographic are themselves diverse. Majorly North and South Indian are opposite(linguistically, and culturally).
In addition to my above claim, if your friend is westernized and potential partner is also living in same piece of land but his/her native country is different, then I don’t see any major conflict. I believe they are more American/British and of course Muslim too but they are not backward or close minded as their fore father used to be. At the end of the day, if they both are educated, they should flexible to accept the change and variation in lifestyle. As her own mom is open to proceed her rishta with Pakistani guy.
I was gonna say, I have a lot of Indian friends who have married Pakistani Muslims or Bengalis, and it tends to be the parents who have a problem, rather than the children. Her mum sounds quite open-minded!
I've found that if they're brought up in the same society, you may have minor cultural differences, but you also have a lot of similarities. It's not usually an issue with the couples I've seen, apart from something like language, in which case both parties try to teach both languages.
I've seen a lot of successful Indian-Pakistani Muslim marriages. I think it works out just fine because of the almost identical culture/language. I have no idea why your friend would have an issue with that. Maybe she's just really proud of being Indian and cannot imagine being with a Pakistani? Who knows.
My parents have an issue with me considering Arab/Afghani guys who show interest. But that's understandable. ha
Aaah. Well it could be because of visa issues. Like my husband and I have been married 16 years, he's a US citizen but was born in Pakistan and because of that, he's never been able to get a visa to India. Don't get me started on this. It's ridiculous. But, as a result, he's never met my extended family (my immediate family has all come here several times). Maybe she's worried about logistics like that.
Now if she's grown up in a small town in say the southern part of India where she can only speak the native language and culturally very different from the North Indians, then maybe she's worried about the big difference in language/culture that could arise.
Or, maybe she had a bad experience with one non-Indian muslim and is stereotyping.
Here I am, an Indian married to a Pakistani. I have no issues whatsoever (even during cricket matches). We have far more serious issues over iphones and Androids :D.
i don't think it's about the differences...it's about the immigration reasons...no matter where you live, in the States or in Pakistan, getting a visa to visit India is hard. travel within India is also restricted to a couple of cities if you manage to get a visa. it makes sense though to look strictly for an Indian rishta given the reasons as above.
Aaah. Well it could be because of visa issues. Like my husband and I have been married 16 years, he's a US citizen but was born in Pakistan and because of that, he's never been able to get a visa to India. Don't get me started on this. It's ridiculous. But, as a result, he's never met my extended family (my immediate family has all come here several times). Maybe she's worried about logistics like that.
Now if she's grown up in a small town in say the southern part of India where she can only speak the native language and culturally very different from the North Indians, then maybe she's worried about the big difference in language/culture that could arise.
Or, maybe she had a bad experience with one non-Indian muslim and is stereotyping.
Here I am, an Indian married to a Pakistani. I have no issues whatsoever (even during cricket matches). We have far more serious issues over iphones and Androids :D.
From what I hear but don't quote me on it. If a Pakistani applies for Indian visa on their Pakistani passport from Pakistan they have greater chance of getting the visa instead of from America on their American Passport.
i don't think it's about the differences...it's about the immigration reasons...no matter where you live, in the States or in Pakistan, getting a visa to visit India is hard. travel within India is also restricted to a couple of cities if you manage to get a visa. it makes sense though to look strictly for an Indian rishta given the reasons as above.
Honestly though, is that even a big deal? If both families live outside then why would that even matter.
