Pakistani Men 2nd Marriage Kio Nahi Karte?

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Disclaimer: I got this from another website. I found it…interesting. So I’m like, hey, let’s post it. A lot of the things that the original posted stated, I see that sometimes in Life1 and Religion. Maroon is translation. Otherwise everything as it is:

sab jante hai keh Shaadi karna sawab ka kam hai, aur shaadi na karna gunah hai. Islam mai mardo ko char (4) shaadi ki ijazat hai lekin shart yeh hai keh tamam bivio ke sath insaf kia jai. Pakistan mai doosri shaadi se qabal pahli bivi se ijazat lena zaroori hai. mera sawal yeh hai keh.

Everyone knows that marriage is sawab ka kaam, and not marrying is a sin. In Islam, men are allowed to marry 4 times, but the condition is that they should be able to treat all 4 wives with justice. In Pakistan, the man before getting remarried, he has to get permission. My question is…

  1. jab shaadi karna sawab ka kam hai tu kia dosri shaadi se double sawab, aur char shaadi se 4 times sawab hoga?

If marrying once is a sawab, then does getting married twice double that sawab, and then marrying 4 wives quadruple the sawab?

  1. Pakistani mard generally doosri shaadi karna nahi chahte. is ki kia wajah hai? Kia woh aik se zaid bivi se insaf ki salahiat nahi rakhte?

Pakistani men generally don’t want to get married twice. Why is that? Is it because he can’t treat both wives equally?

  1. Pakistani aurtai apne shohar ki doosri bivi ko bardasht nahi karti. is lia doosri shaadi se qabal hi pahli bivi kahti hai keh doosri karni hai tu mujhe talaq do, aur doosri bhi yahi kahti hai keh pahli ko talaq do ge tu phir tum se shaadi karoo gi. kia aurto ka bila wajah aik doosre ko is tarah accept na karna sahi hai? kia mardo ka bivi ke dabao mai aakar doosri shaadi na karna sahi hai?

Pakistani women can’t tolerate another wife of their husband. That’s why before the husband gets remarried, they say that you can marry again after you give me a divorce. The other wife says that same thing. Why can’t the wives accept each other without reason. Because the man comes under pressure from the wives and then doesn’t get married again, is that right?

  1. Kahte hai keh Pakistani culture, Indian culture (hindu) se bahut ziadah mutassir hai, isi lia yaha bhi hindu ki tarah doosri shaadi ka tasawwar nahi hai. kia yeh baat sahi hai. agar nahi tu phir kia sahi hai?

They say that the Pakistani culture is heavily influenced by the Indian (hindu) culture. In the Hindu culture there is no concept of 2 wives therefore there is no concept of marrying twice in Pakistani culture. Is that correct? If not, what is correct?

  1. Kia Islam mai doosri shaadi se qabal pahli bivi se ijazat leni zaroori hai? agar nahi tu kia Pakistan ka bivi se ijazat lena wala qanoon ghair islami hai. kia ghair islami qanoon ki khilaf warzi gunah hai?

In Islam, is it required to get the permission of the wife before getting married again? If not, then the law in Pakistan that states that the husband has to get permission of the wife before getting married, is that against Islam? Is this law a sin?

  1. agar koi Pakistani mard aik se zaid bivi ke sath insaf karne ki salahiat rakhta ho tu kia ose doosri shaadi kar leni chahia?

If a Pakistani man is capable of treating multiple wives with justice, then should he get married again?

  1. tamam bivio se insaf se kia murad hai? ham kab kahe ge ke yeh aadmi sahi hai, kio keh yeh apni tamam bivio se insaf kar raha hai.

What does it mean by the phrase “treating the wives with justice”? When can we say that this man is right, because he is treating his wives with justice?

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You actually went ahead and translated it O_o

:khumar:

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u translated this. rofl.

therapeutic?

well i like his deduction skilllzzzz, sorta.

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Aaj kal kaam hai iis ka logon ki ajeeb baaton pe gor karna

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wut I wanted replies ok :naraz: I know some smart alec would be like har har too much urdu I can’t read roman urdu har har. So HA! :snooty:

Jee, tabhi to I listen to you and read your posts :slight_smile:

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He needs psychological help, reckon anyone that can give it to him?

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which site did you get this from? :p

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These threads are ironically started by women? I wonder why? You want us to marry 2nd time. I have no problem with that..:p

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so murgi gets some replies even if he/she asks a question like this…aur mere question pe u ask me to go to sleep :naraz:

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I'd say the Hindu culture influence bit is true. But thank God for it.

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  1. No the sawab doesn't double, triple or quadruple unless the man is able to do justice with all 4.
  2. Yes and also because they usually can't afford it.
  3. What's wrong with that? In the Arab culture, women are raised with expectations that their husband will marry 2,3,4...but in Pak we see our fathers having one wife so we are used to that set up. Women are jealous by nature...not to say that men aren't...at least the women say clearly that they don't want another woman in their man's life...men just go and kill the man who their wife may like.
  4. True to a certain extent. Also because generally, Pakistani men are more God fearing and love their wives deeply.
  5. It is not a law, and as far as I know, it is not a requirement in Pakistan either.
  6. Not my husband or my daughters' husband. :)
  7. That is for Allah to decide.
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Joke of the century :omg:

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they do, they just dont let it out :p

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Lo jee, tareef karo toh bhi tunz :naraz:

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I am trying to fit in you know.......:@:

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by far the most idiotic article i ever read, so idiotic that its actually hilarious.

BTW !! Isn't there a reason to marry 4 times. Or can u just simply marry 4 times as long as u treat them equally??.

Y don't 'muslim' men get all religious on this aspect. Because it suits them just fine. God forbid if a women had to do something remotely anti-religious and all hell breaks loose. Hypocrites. The whole bum of 'em.

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I read somewhere " Only the very bad or the very good are polygamists."

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Get another pakistani biwi? :rotfl: I would want variety if I had to fill the extra spots in my life like most pakistani girls are brunette, so perhaps the second one should be a fair curly haired redhead? Now tell me the odds of that happening in Pakistan! :hinna:

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I know of a couple of men who have more than one wife. 2 out of 3 are desi. Anyhow, as for the questions:

  1. This questions is best asked to a scholar. I wouldn't know, though I would intuitively think that if a man is fulfilling the rights of more than one wife, he would be rewarded for each one. Whether this means that it will double, triple or quadruple his reward, I couldn't say.

  2. I don't know. My personal reasons would be that I'm happy with the one I have and doubt that I could do justice.

  3. I don't think it's wrong.

  4. Well, partly because the trend is not there, but I wouldn't credit Indian culture with it.

  5. This question is best left to a scholar.

  6. It's his choice. To each his own.

  7. Since I have no experience in this, I can't really answer properly. However, someone once told me the example of an aalim who had two wives. One of his practices was that if he was giving them fruit, he would cut two fruits in half, and give each wife a half of each fruit. When asked why he did it this way (instead of just giving a whole fruit to each), his reply was more or less that one fruit could have some flaw in it while the other one didn't, which would lead to one getting a better thing than the other, so justice would not be done between his wives.

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Why would a Pakistani man commit suicide twice?