Pakistani Larkey

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Re: Pakistani Larkey

@simawaq

Focus of my question are the boys (of Pakistani origin only)

I am girl 24, born and spent whole life in Pakistan. Never went abroad. Extremely average Pakistani girl from middle class family, . who gets good education, learns handi roti, adapts to cultural and family values, has some ethics, moderate religious values, does parda, very normal upbringing with similar girls in school/college/uni life.

By all conventional defintiions of shareef larki, i am one. Now folks from other side of the world might think, I am part of the same old conservative, non liberal, mulla stupid system. They can have that opinion, but I am not. I like the way I am.

Now the real question.

One week ago, some family came to our house, looking a rishta for their son.

I have been having alot of thoughts since then.

So all my life, I have kept a good distance from the guys. Never had any phone/real affaris, never had given some one opportunity to flirt. maintained reasonable distance to where contact could not be avoided, such as class assignments, project groups. Even wore lose clothes where gathering was boys in greater number.

I have believed in saving myself for the right one. clear consicence and all that. I am not alone, to the best of my knowledge, a good number of girls are out there who are like me.

Now in your experiece, how many pakistani boys are out there? for the monogamic life, saving themselves for the right one too ?
Or do you had a husband for whom, you were the first and last?

First of all that is very beautiful all what you’re doing and trust me the reward’s going to be more than you ever wished for.

As far as guys are concerned there are a lot of guys who are also doing the same and if you haven’t encountered one you’ll soon.

I think saving ones self from falling in to temptation is one of the biggest fights youth has to go through now a days and some stick to their beliefs which totally depends upon their upbringing most of the time and others can’t hold it for much longer and get astray.

One interesting thing in this regard that I would like to mention is, if you go back into history of men and women fashion you’d be surprised to see that men are still wearing same stuff they used to wear 20 or even more years back but on the other hand when it comes to women the way they dress now its very revealing, sexy, tempting and vulgar.

So that whole temptation thing, women have a great role in that. When I was in uni some of my female classmates would deliberately touch themselves with mine and that’s just one example as I don’t like to go deep into this.

What you can say about women who believe in the theory, “If I go out naked the guy looking at me is bad”.

You’ll find women now a days following this sh*tty theory one way or another. I’m not saying it’s entirely women but women have an enormous role in today’s tempting, lost, depressing and sexual era.