So both genders are quite serious about their careers here but I see so many couples from Pakistan where girls are not working. I am assisting this Pakistani girl in her mortgage career and she talks all gung ho about how she wants to do well but really shows no focus and initiative. When she is at work her mother calls and distracts her all the time and she talks really loud with her in Urdu and at work environment people should talk in a language understood by everyone. She also shares her rishta activities with us and seeks advice as to where to take the date etc and seems a lot more interested in rishta then working. Most of the Indian couples I know the females are working and taking their careers quite seriously. There are many Indian mortgage brokers who are females and they hussle and seek business very aggressively. I helped Kalpana out and she is now making a lot of business. So is it because of deep rooted belief that a man is supposed to provide or something else?
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Both countries have women who are career-oriented and women who are not. The Pakistani girl you talked about does not represent the entire nation.
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Ufff Uncle aap ko tou haar chez sy he problem ha, even language par bi.. it’s their life… You can not and should not dictate anyone.
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I think it’s impolite to talk loudly on the phone when there are others around. One should excuse and go elsewhere to talk. I also think it’s impolite to talk in a language others don’t understand if they are around. It’s ok to talk in whatever language you want when you’re out and not in a formal/informal setting.
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It is just not one girl, I deal with people everyday and in the last couple of years I came across approximately 30 Pakistani couples and none of the wives were working and I have probably dealt with several hundred young Indian couples and their wives are all working, they dont even mind menial jobs like housekeeping and stuff. There isn’t really any mortgage girls from Pak, several from India. Sae with realtors I came across dozens from India and none from Pak.
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What if her mother has language barrier..?
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I think her mother is destroying her life by being over needy and seeking attention all the time. She is at work and should be left alone to focus on work. If it is an emergency then fine but otherwise let them work. She can also excuse herself and go out of the presentation centre to talk. My wife does not bother me at work. Some parents are very selfish.
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Bobby Pehn,
Sahi kehnda eh Pakistani Shehzada. Tusi lokan nu chaddo paran tay apnay aap nu vekho.
There is too much zenana-pan in you. That’s right. Zenana-pan!!! Always trying too much hard to assert your muscles and masculinity and hero wala, savior-jesa image.
Thread ka title parh k hi pata lag janda eh k Bobby Pehn da thread eh, click karan di load hi nai hondi. Aithon ban tenu karna nayi kisi ne. Aithon paran daffa tu marna nayi eh. Tay khuda da vasta eh chup kar k beja. Give us chutti from Jenny, Anjali, Chris, Ravi, Angela, falana tamkan. Ais Kalapna ton zayada kalpaai te tu karna ehn. Kiddon tenu matt aani eh, khotaaya !!! 
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I know many 5-4 scrawny guys with rolled shoulders. pencil necks, no muscle tone who cant even lift and cant be good providers and think beating woman and children and abusing and cussing makes them real men..lol. yeah dude you daaa man!! lol. In our society a real man is kind, patient and helps and support but if need be can act with overwhelming force. And you the one braying dude so who is the khota, Our khotas here are valued more than rude ignorant person..hope you can elevate yourself to a that level.
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When we are at work it is kind of not our right to do whatever, we get payed to perform and act in a certain way. When you work for a prestigious corporation you are required to behave as per good business etiquettes and conduct yourself professionally. Having loud personal conversations in a foreign language within earshot of clients is not acceptable.
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You know many scrawny, fat, tall, short, ugly, pretty, employed, faarigh, inspirational, bekaar men and women and children and babies and animals and plants and aliens. We get it. You know everyone and every eetchy beetchy detail about their existence including their sex lives. But do you know that those who truly have it don’t flaunt it? Allow me to shed some light on the andhera behind your eyes. Just as the truly wealthy don’t go around flaunting their wealth, the men that are strongly built don’t go around bragging about muscles, and grown men that are internally secure within themselves don’t go around challenging boys their sons’ age to arm-wrestling duels. Butting into people’s lives and then constantly comparing their lives to your own life. Too much dude. Just too much. Ay te auratan walay kamm honday ne. Try being a bit more taciturn. That’s right. Taciturn. It’s more masculine. It’ll lessen the zeh-naa-naa-pannn!
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So I left everything I owned back there so that I may never have to interact with someone as obscene as you, so kindly move along. Have no interest in what you think
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Oh Baji, you never have an “interest” in anybody who calls you out on your mistakes.
30 Pakistani families do not represent total Pakistani population. If those Pakistani women are not working, that’s their personal business. They might have a mutual agreement with their spouses that this is how things will go. Those Pakistani women are not going to be paying your bills. If you’re gonna fight for people’s rights to live their lives the way they want, then let those women be. Stop comparing them to the Indian women, or Gori women, or your wife, or even to your exes.
The only legitimate concern that you have is that this Pakistani employee is not fulling her professional responsibilities to the best of her abilities because she is distracted by her amma. I assure you Baji that I have come across unprofessional behavior in Goray laug, Black laug, Hispanic laug.
You should have expressed your valid concern about this Pakistani employee WITHOUT tarring all other PAKISTANI females with the same brush. This aadat of yours is what earns you my chittars and the annoyance of many readers, Baji.
You knew what you were doing when you lit this maachis ki teeli and I just came along and dumped some kerosene on it so that you SHIIIINEEE (shine) even BRIGHTER, Bobby JI. So, my work here is done, Baji. Until next time, Alvidaa :khatti: (the zenana emoji)
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Why others life choices are bothering you so much? Its their life, let them do what they want to do. Those Pakistani girls have a choice of working & not working. I don’t know why its troubling you so much. What Pakistani girls want to do & what not is none of your business.
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Language barrier or not, one should not be attending personal calls at work unless it is an emergency or they are on a break. It is unprofessional to do so.
@Bobby1 what’s wrong with some women choosing to not work? Most people work out of necessity not because they love to.
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Nothing wrong with it, to each their own I am just trying to explore if this is a thing and honestly it is really hard here to make a go of it with one income, just living in a duplex here you need 80k in income. I see the indian couples where they have low paying jobs and together they can afford the house. Also raising kids is very expensive. With the goras they are pulling in 70k each and together gave the income to have a luxurious life. It is very hard on single income now. Plus with 50 percent divorce rate counting on a man for financial support is not smart,
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It troubles me when I see people fall behind in life, first because of a lot of factors there is hardly any immigration and then you look at people who cant afford to buy a duplex and then you see divorces and girls cant take care of themselves financially and also financial dependency can lead to abuse. We as humans are empathetic and feel each others pain. If that really is a thing then we need to discuss it so people can start talking about taking careers seriously.
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Its up to the couples, whether they both work or not! If they are not asking for public assistance and are subsisting on an o.k income and not caring about a luxurious life, its called contentment. Indians are more money orientated (again no harm in that if that’s what they want to do). However, I see most Pakistani women working here in the states, no matter what their spouse’s income is. Some are even forced by in laws and husbands to work, all while bearing most of the household work themselves.
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So what is happening is they are coming to me looking to purchase small properties and in many cases their finance is getting declined as they get over extended financially, are not able to pay their bills and don’t have enough income to get approved for mortgage. So they are showing a need and really want to live in something a bit decent. Husbands should always help out with house work and no one should really be forced to work. I just think for their own well being girls should be financially independent.
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I know quite a few Pakistani women in Saudi who work. There are quite a few Pakistani women on GS too who work. And I know a few Pakistani women in Pakistan who work.
Moreover, it’s a personal choice. Neither extreme is good; forcing every woman to sit at home, nor forcing every woman to work. We should not look down at either one of them.