Pakistani girls marrying outside their ethnicity/culture???????

[kakee]

Re: Pakistani girls marrying outside their ethnicity/culture???

@Mad_Hatter

Kakee, that’s not always true, although I do get your point. People do find it easier to get along if they’re from the same nationalities.

BUT I’ve also seen this culture difference, it’s a lot more subtle than just having two different nationalities or religions.

A lot of UK-born Pakistanis tend to look down on those who have married Pakistanis who were brought up from ‘back home’ and then came over. I know so many cases where a girl who was brought up in the UK has married someone from Pakistan, and yes, although the couple themselves don’t care, they get judged for it. This attitude is becoming more and more common these days than say, 10 years ago.

My eldest sister married one of our relatives from Pakistan, he came over to London after they got married. There was a big culture difference yes, but they were able to work with it because they were both willing to. What was not nice was relatives choosing to see this as a bad thing, or that she ‘could have done better’ etc etc.

What my point is, although my sister and her hubby were hubby, people DID make remarks about marrying someone from what is technically a different upbringing.

hmm but in Phalies case she lived in the US so it wasn’t so foreign for her I assume she understands by now how things work in America.

I still think its different for people who are totally foreign so yes I shouldn’t say if you’re the same nationality you have some common ground but I know how difficult it is to move from everything you knew to another which is totally foreign. So for those bringing their wife or husband home who have only lived in one country/city/town and then be pulled out of it I’m sure it would be difficult since its not their environment they grew up in.