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heres the outfit pic i was talking about -
and a couple more i like-
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That first one is gorgeous somegroovychick. Purple and red and blue and red shaadi outfits are very much 'in' this season.
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Hey Empress--purple would look awesome! Especialy with your hair and color. Er i'd say stay away from something red or pink and orange. But purple or deep blue (or a combinatioN) would rock.
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why, what color hair do you have?
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My hair is weird colored..naturally it's light brownish/dark blondish, but I used to experiment and dye it red a few years ago, and although it's grown out, I still have sort of reddish highlights in certain lighting...it wouldn't look good with pink or orange..(and I'm not really a fan of wearing those colors anyway). I like the first outfit you posted, minus the orange...the purple and gold look nice together...
I still have plenty of time to think about this..over a year...sometimes I think I'm crazy thinking so much about this over a year in advance. My boyfriend tells me to stop stressing so much and worry about it "when the time comes". It's not really stress though...to me this whole thing is fun and a welcome diversion, because school is really killing me this semester. (I'm taking 20 credits, which is pretty much unheard of in the school I'm in..most people take 13-15.) So yeah, it feels good to take time out and daydream about dresses and parties and whatnot. We're supposed to be officially engaged next year, but when things calm down in his family a bit (it's a busy time cause his sister is expecting a baby any day now and his mom is busy helping her and everyone is understandably thinking about that), I'm going to talk to her about maybe moving the engagement to the end of this year, or sooner, because my family won't even listen to me talk about weddings or help me plan or take the whole thing seriously until they see an engagement ring (which to them, is what makes the engagement official) I found pictures of rings I loved and saved them on the desktop of his computer...so "when the time comes" (as he is so fond of saying) he could print them and show them to his mom if she's the one buying the ring (her taste in jewelery is very different than mine). I just hope I don't look greedy or like I'm pressuring anyone into buying me the ring..I'm not like that at all. I need to find a way to explain to his family that the ring is just an important part of the the process in my family.
I'm also afraid that his mom is gonna change her mind about the whole wedding thing. She kind of changes her mind a lot. (And yes Somegroovychick or SGC as I shall now call you because I'm lazy, I know about the kind of drama that you and your fh experienced at first cause I had a lot of that too. Things weren't the greatest between me and his mom for awhile, but I worked really hard to fix things and we are all much much happier now.) And yeah, I'm really excited about everything and hope it works out. And Teelobhain, if you are willing to wait a year I will DEFINITELY post pics.
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just go to the salon and go all brown! haha its the quickest fix and then you can wear whatever you want. as for the orange, you can work it into one of the bottom strips of the outfit, so its a slight accent, if you want.
and honestly, don't stress about your wedding until you have your ring. i knew i was getting mine but my family was just NOT interested in listening to anything like yours. they were expecting my FH to dump me any day now simply cos he's gora. it was brutal and made me so unhappy. anyway, the day he popped the question, it was like this huge collective (self-inflicted, imho) load was lifted off everyone's shoulders, so i completely get what you're saying about having a ring first. there will be enough time and enough stressing later on- just enjoy these little breaks of mental planning and focus on getting thru your 20 insane credits :p
and if theres one piece of advice i can give you, its this- no matter how much you love your fh and no matter how much you want to be together, don't lose yourself in the process of getting engaged and then married, ok? weddings can be overwhelming as it is, and you really want to have a good time and enjoy yourself and have the things important to both of you. don't let your mil overshadow the planning or dictate how its supposed to go. its very good you're planning to do the valima "white" style: it'll make your family feel better, feel more involved, and let everyone else know you have a culture too! :)
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Oh darn I thought you were a natural redhead :p
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Okay, as a little update on this thread...engagement party or mangni (no idea if I spelled that right) is happening this June, talked it over with him and his mom last night. I'm really really excited. This is happening much sooner than I thought. I don't know how big it is going to be, but his mom is going to Pakistan before then just to get clothes for me and him for the occasion. Does anyone have any pictures from their engagements or websites with pictures of what people would normally wear for this type of thing?
Oh and Sara, congratulations on your wedding...a little late I know, but better late than never.
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^ I think she’ll know what to get you to wear hehe… congratz ! I’ll deff be there 
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Yay! I know she'll know what to get...but I still feel like looking at pictures, just because I'm excited and am curious to see what other people have done.
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^ Ok. Go to the bridal thread, "Post pix of brides" is the title..its 20-something pages long.. :D
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good luck on ur wedding!
jus some dresses!
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I am having so much fun reading all this:)
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congratulations, woman! :) its gonna be fun!
does your mil have good taste, generally speaking? thats a good indicator of how your outfit will be!
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hello empress...i got married in the middle of law school and i had to do planning in the middle of the semester so i feel ur pain..its soo hard! i guess if u take a semester off or wait til u are done and get married it might be easier. i had to postpone my honeymoon till the christmas break! but i know how parents can be also.
for ur dresses..i would probably say purple would be a good choice cuz its differnet ad ppl are wearing all kinds of colors nowadays even though red is traditional. i would do the white for valima cuz its more the "calm day after relaxed party" type of thing as opposed to baraat and ruksati. maybe u can even get a white dress made...like indian/pakistani style lehnga but in a white color so it would be amazing but still white w. ur tradition.
as for engagements: mine was in a hall but with family only, so not big. but again depends on what u guys want.
i wore orange for engagement, green/yellow mix for mehndi and red for wedding and blue and gold for valima.
hope this helps!
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oh 1 more thing empress: about the whole ring thing...i am pakistani and so is my husband but i was born here and lived here all my life so the ring was really important to me too!! what we did was get traditional gold jewelry from pakistan that 24K kind...and did that as engagement rings and put them on one another at the engagement ceremony...he didnt get on 1 knee or anything (thank god i hate that!) but on the real wedding day....we bought "american" wedding rings like the typical band and diamond ring. and those are the rings we wear every day.
as for my diamond ring...i picked it out...i didnt want his mom or even him to pick it out since i have to wear it everyday!! i dont care! and no one minded since they knew it was mine to wear.....so i picked it out and i love it and im happy. i would go ring shopping with his mom cuz im SURE that u will have VERY DIFFERENTTTT opinions on jewelry! good luck
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does your mil have good taste, generally speaking? thats a good indicator of how your outfit will be!
Yeah, she does for the most part. Some of the colors and jewelry she wears are a bit bold for my taste, but then again I'm pretty conservative when it comes to that kind of thing. I usually wear small, understated jewelery and not much make up. As for colors, I guess I like opposite extremes. I like really dark colors like plum, navy blue, forest green, burgundy, etc and I like pastels (sea green, lavendar, peach, pale blue, etc.) I don't like bright/bold colors as much. But I know this is a special occasion it's okay to be a little more out there...so the only guideline I have for her are no pink and no orange...I can can deal with any other color.
And yeah, I had more to write, but I have class now...to be continued.
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^ i looove her jewelery and some of her outfits 
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sara- yes but you're paindoo :P
i'm kidding! i'm kidding! lol :)
no, but seriously- describe her stuff... like what kind of jewellery?
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^ its nice..for the most part, very modern, shes very practical too, wud rather spend $150 for gold-plated fancy (bridal-esque) earrings than thousands for real gold..all of her things are very gorgeous