How many Pakistani/Muslim men you know who got cold feet? What was the end result? And is it rare in our culture or just as much as in gora culture?
edit: just realized what ive gotten into by starting this thread.
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its ok cricket...
I know that there are "marriage jitters" in every culture and country. Its pretty rare though in gora culture that the bride or groom backs out...it DOES happen for sure. But I think its much less common than in desi culture where the couple dont usually really get to know each other beforehand.
Inmy hubby's case, he was engaged to a "nice" gal, she went thru the whole process, hubbys family spent allkinds of money on clothes, jewels, etc and so on. But she backed out...called my hubby and asked him to take the blame for it so that SHE wouldnt have to, her life would be made miserable yadayada. I was just friends and colleague of my hubby in those days and he was pretty devastated. He resigned himself to arranged marriage to make his family happyand then it blows up in his face.
Needsless to say though....that gal is eating crow lol!! She passed up the BEST husband, father, provider, friend that she could ever have hoped for. Now he's MINE-ALL-MINE lol!!
HA!
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"He left her sitting with her family (females only) behind the parda" just doesn't have a good ring to it innit?
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I myself know of three people who called the wedding off shortly before the marriage. Two of them not quite one month before and one AFTER the girl's mayyon had already happened.
It happens and despite the heartache, imagined or actual embarrasment and cost - it's way better to end it before you get married than to regret it days or months or even years after.
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Happens often and it's easier to have cold feet when you're dating. So common for desis to be closet dating and then when the girl pushes for marriage, he breaks it off.
When parents are involved, a guy usually takes it more seriously.
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If either the guy or the girl isn't whole-heartedly committed to making the relationship work - doubts are natural, but you have to want to work through the doubts and make an effort - end it.
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Her uncle did give me the 'soch lo, abhee bee waqt haiy' line, albeit jokingly. And I almost did consider it for 2 microseconds. Glad i didn't.
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How is Pakistani cold feet different than gora cold feet? both sets of feet are cold aren't htey?
How is Pakistani cold feet different than gora cold feet? both sets of feet are cold aren't htey?
A different set of reasons perhaps.
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^ I knew it, there was a reason they made u mod of this place. :D
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You know. Women have cold feet too.
Pakistani cold feet :D
Like? I mean both get cold feet b/c there’s still that little bit of doubt that they want to be with the person…
I think I truly was insane when I got married. Wasn’t scared at all, wasn’t upset or terrified
Gosh what a strange one I was 
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y dint anyone mention desi and non-desi cold feet as yet.. 
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they should be using a foot cream for that!
in ky pa’it meen maroor uthty heen jab tak “deis” word na use ker leen
Have yet to see pakistani cold feet 
Aren’t pak men more eager to marry than cold feet?? Or maybe they have it but don’t express it often 
The poor girl might it though, not with regards to adjustment with the hubby but with the inlaws
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thas what mozay are for, duh
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I know of one guy who waited until his wedding night to tell his bride about his gf. He couldn't go through with the marriage. They were divorced soon after. The community was really shaken up.
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I was being advised to call off my wedding just before my mehendi .....I didn't even though I wanted to I was much concerned that invitations are out , relatives are here , what will parents go through ! I think it was the best advise someone gave me and I didn't follow it !