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They have no choice, but to marry fobs. They are easy, typically less intelligent, less schooled, and with a poor handle on English so they have to be dependent on you...which in turn feeds your egos which would probably not get fed with the intelligent desi girls raised here.
They're also less likely to stand up for themselves so men and their families don't need to worry much about lawsuits and divorce proceedings, etc. They don't know their legal rights usually and typically are not employed OR they don't make enough money to feel confident in walking out on your bakhwaas or your amma's bakhwaas.
I am sorry PCG but I dont agree with you,I got married to an American Pakistani, I have been in U.S for more than 5 yrs now, I am a doctor doing my residency, hav a daughter, take care of her, cook, do household chores, speaks English, go out,drive my own car,take care of my family financial, legal, mortgage issues,socialize...etc.
And the kind of women you are talking abt doent exist anymore, how long have you been to Paksitan lately?
Please be careful when you generalize.
Quite a few desi girls are also marrying ‘out’ (white boys).
What’s funny is that it’s coool and awwweeeesome if a larka does it, but if a girl does it, people start giving taanay about white people and hygiene. Not that you have done that, but it’s something that I’ve observed.
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Hygeine??
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Yeah in fact I opened a thread some time ago about marrying a white guy. I don’t recall getting an enthusiastic response about it.
Oh well. 
and what is that humor me, women have all these crazies thoughts for Pakistan guys either they born in west or in Motherland .. a word on that !
their are three types of chicks as far i understand (Pakistani's)
1) one who are on totally extreme right .. they do parda/scarf and hell a lot of stuff according to their version of Islam .. on top of that they are all well educated but with such a mentality .. that it make the guys sick like.. hey i don't like that.. its not islamic .. this is islamic ..and they will back all their claims from their own twisted version of religion understanding.. they whine all the time .. more like control freak.. (stay away from this kind - as per their mentality they will never be good in bed and neither in life) ** 2) one who are on totally extreme left ... they don't do parda/scraf .. they are like hot babies in the college/school too but never got good marks, their faces are beautiful but also fill with ego too .. . and they & whine about pitty topics all the time too.. all they want is .. freedom for themselves but not for the guy (as per their mentality and lifestyle they try to be good in bed)**
3) now this version of the girl is who is in middle, .. .she do scraf or don't do some times .. she has respect for Islamic rules but not in extreme levels, .. she is not extra ordinary educated .. but just finish some college.. .. have beautiful, lovely face.. and easily to bend according to situation .. she will be a good wife and mother imo .. (go for it - its not the bed all matters its the mental "sakkooon")
Wow. That was painful to read.
I said I have **yet **to meet a guy from Pakistan who's personality etc is compatible with mine. I didn't make a blanket statement about Pakistani men, yet you have about Pakistani women.
You say women have "crazy thoughts" about Pakistani guys but then you go on and place Pakistani women on some wacked out ranking system in order to determine how good they are in bed?! The words pot, kettle and black come to mind...
At the end of the day, marriages are a crapshot. You should try to find someone to settle with who is like minded. They should have a similar level of culture, religious, and family values as you, so at least those things won't be a sticking point later on. You should try and marry someone who shares the same type of mental awareness as you. And someone you do find attractive as well, or potential for that. Even with all that, there is no given that someone may change, somethings may happen that are external forces (moving away, trouble with inlaws, health isuuses etc) that may cause one of the parties to bail. So you try your best, and at least start with the things mentioned above , and hope everthing else falls into place.
I did not mention anything about our mothers & fathers who immigrated here many years ago. Also there is a huge difference in that scenario. Usually both parents were raised in Paki, married there and then for one reason or another immigrated together to US/UK/Germany etc with or without kids. They were not raised in different environments.
Who does not have sakoon? I know I do, so do my parents. Depends on what gives you sakoon…
At the end of the day, marriages are a crapshot. You should try to find someone to settle with who is like minded. They should have a similar level of culture, religious, and family values as you, so at least those things won't be a sticking point later on. You should try and marry someone who shares the same type of mental awareness as you. And someone you do find attractive as well, or potential for that. Even with all that, there is no given that someone may change, somethings may happen that are external forces (moving away, trouble with inlaws, health isuuses etc) that may cause one of the parties to bail. So you try your best, and at least start with the things mentioned above , and hope everthing else falls into place.
Good Post.
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Partyslims i love you. I know so many people who do too. You're such a rockstar.
So...you smell?
Ok.
Please let your future spouse know, so she is warned.
Oh but as she'll be from Pakistan, they're used to all kinds of worse smells over there such that onion ki smell is actually "khusboo" for them. pats CM on back And so things may work out for you afterall.
LMAOOOOOOO
That made no sense to me whatsoever…
Then for your sake, I hope you have a couple of daughters. You'll be so happy to move back to your motherland, because obviously you'll raise a whorebucket if you stay here.
are you freaking kidding me ... just because a guy made a post that u don't agree with (which IMO wasn't even bad) ur gonna take shots like this ... honestly whatever happend to being adults and have a civilized and cultured discussion about something ...
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A lot is said in my area regarding both men and women back home. They state both marry for the green card, and back home they are worse than over here. They are so obessed with becomming Americanized that they completely throw religion out the door. I have also heard about desi girls wearing capris and sleeveless shirts in Pakistan.
Im not saying this is true, but these are the reasons I am given by people that don't want to marry back home.
Partyslims i love you. I know so many people who do too. You're such a rockstar.
Aww thanks. That was very kind and made me smile. Oh, and your s/n is awesome. I love it. :D
Partyslims i love you. I know so many people who do too. You're such a rockstar.
Yes, you and your boys club should learn from this poster. As everything you're saying is in direct contradiction to what he/she is saying.
:)
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Turns out I was only being complimented on my screenname, the famous chili chips I grew up with in Karachi lol. I feel so used. :(
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"pakistani boys vs western desi boys"
its sounds the same as when you have to decide between buying a branded item or a local one.
use your heart and brain...not brand names please.
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maybe it's best to take the middle path... someone born in Pakistan but lives in the West or someone born in the West but lives in Pakistan (and attended an American school there) :)
It boils down to compatibility. We have a lot of stereotypes on guys/girls in Pakistan- they're marrying for a green card, will have fobby accents, have oppressive views, the girls there are not saints, etc. Stereotypes can be wrong. But I think the bigger reason why people in the US or other Western countries don't go for someone in Pakistan is the risk involved... less interaction and less likely to perform a thorough background check.