Cricket playa, have you ever held a job down and had to pay for more than just your iphone bill with a job in the mall selling t-shirts?
You’ll appreciate having a wife with some income earning potential when the time comes around. Dunno where you live, but cost of living in America can be pretty burdensome. Having an extra hand at the wheel can help a lot.
And seriously, it all comes down to personal preference. Let people do what they want and let them have the kind of person they want. All I get annoyed with is when these chokras come out of every nook and cranny and go after the educated girls with jobs and then ask them later to leave their job. Its one thing when the girl is a secretary with an associate’s degree, and doesn’t mind leaving her job to sit at home, because she can do away with an annoying job with an annoying boss. Its another when you’ve got a woman who has invested all her time and emotions and sweat and literally EVERYTHING into her career, and you KNOW that, and you STILL marry her and then have the NERVE to ask her to stay at home. That’s just lame. If you want someone to sit at home, then find someone who doesn’t work or doesn’t care about leaving her job later on in life.
And then you have people who don’t mind a working spouse, or somehow in all of it they make it work. Look, I work with a lot of women who work really HARD and have kids, and no they’re not at work all the time, and NO they have not hired a nanny. But they have family support in some form or other. Maybe mom or MIL is helping out, maybe sister is the one that babysits, maybe best friend looks after the kids in the morning and then husband takes them at night, etc. I know, I dont know if I’d want to be the kid raised like that. My mom was at home all the time for us, and its an issue I struggle with all the time. But the choice of sitting at home with children, the choice of giving up your career, etc - those are my choices. And you’ll find a lot of women who are like that. You’ll also find those who like to sit at home and tend to your shoes all day long if you wanted them to. Plenty of fish in the sea - just have to figure out what you want and go for it. There should be no hard and fast detailed roles that people have to stick to because of gender.
And nothing needs to be extreme. Why give up your career? Why not just scale back a little or do part-time, or work from close to home, or just take time off when you have the babies and then go back to work? Plenty of options these days to choose from for working moms.