Is that true? vs. western born/raised women who mostly into that whole “independent” illusions?
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No only women with serious psychological issues want controlling men. In which case, I'd say it's a perfect match.
I don't think they want controlling men, I think they're just better at tolerating it.
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I dont understand the question?
Re: Pakistani born/raised women want controlling men?
They dont want men that are controlling. I dont think any woman in her right mind would want that.They just want men to take care of their every need. They want men they can be dependent on while they sit back and take care of nothing more then cook, clean and raise children (of course this doesnt apply for every woman in pakistan).
Whereas in the West women want to be independent and do things for themselves.....men should be happy...takes the burden off of them.
Whereas in the West women want to be independent and do things for themselves.....men should be happy...takes the burden off of them.
u see, most men don't feel comfortable in that situation. i know i wouldn't. why can't women just take care of the home, why take on more responsibilities and feel stressed at the end? take it easy, let us men worry.
They dont want men that are controlling. I dont think any woman in her right mind would want that.They just want men to take care of their every need. They want men they can be dependent on while they sit back and take care of nothing more then cook, clean and raise children (of course this doesnt apply for every woman in pakistan).
Whereas in the West women want to be independent and do things for themselves.....men should be happy...takes the burden off of them.
what she said
u see, most men don't feel comfortable in that situation. i know i wouldn't. why can't women just take care of the home, why take on more responsibilities and feel stressed at the end? take it easy, let us men worry.
Because we women still 'think' and want to grow as people, sometimes cooking and cleaning EVERY day isn’t really enough to satisfy our thirst for personal development.
I feel I should also add that looking after a home is not taking it easy if you also have children, I know women who prefer a high stress job over been a housewife.
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Yeah how would you women feel if men worked and were stressed to the max and didn't cook dinner and clean clothes and raised children? Oh wait we don't. :)
Because we women still 'think' and want to grow as people, sometimes cooking and cleaning EVERY day isn’t really enough to satisfy our thirst for personal development.
I feel I should also add that looking after a home is not taking it easy if you also have children, I know women who prefer a high stress job over been a housewife.
hey u can go on a personal development retreat all you want, nobody stopping you.. but it does not necessarily have to involve working for someone.
hey u can go on a personal development retreat all you want, nobody stopping you.. but it does not necessarily have to involve working for someone.
Personal development is an ongoing thing, you don't really go to a personal development camp and 'top up' on aspiration. Working may be a part of ones personal development. You basically asked why a women cant just be happy taking care of the home, I ask you why cant a man be happy to accept a women’s a right to work and not try stagnate and 'pigeon hole' her.
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Ooooh you told him Zena
Paklarka, dont women also have the right to get out of the home and be self-sufficent?
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What's with this obssession on what the opposite sex wants, should and shouldn't do, should and shouldn't be allowed, their 'supposed' roles and responsbilities, etc. etc. Why don't you all control and worry about things that you have somewhat of a control over and leave the entire gender, that doesn't even belong to you, alone.
If a woman wants to work, let her. If she doesn't, her business. If she wants a controlling man, good for her. If she wants to be in control, wish her the best.
Personal development is an ongoing thing, you don't really go to a personal development camp and 'top up' on aspiration. Working may be a part of ones personal development. You basically asked why a women cant just be happy taking care of the home**, I ask you why cant a man be happy to accept a women’s a right to work and not try stagnate and 'pigeon hole' **her.
call me old school but it's the man's job to put bread on the table, this does not mean we're trying to "pigeon hole" women.
call me old school but it's the man's job to put bread on the table, this does not mean we're trying to "pigeon hole" women.
"The man should be able to provide for his family."
^ Where in the above sentence does a woman lose her right to work/earn?
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^ some people (not tying it down to just men) equate that to women not being allowed to work. And then, they take it further by saying that a man should not have to worry about the upbringing of children, rather they are just there to provide the food and means..
I am not sure whether a woman wants a controlling man... but moreso a man who is in control. Not in control of her or her rights, but more in control of his life, his goals, his future and where he would like to direct the marriage.. direct the life they have together.
So, if I being a woman, want a man whose controlling.. than damn right I am one of those women. I do want someone who has a clear idea of what he wants in the future, for me, for him, for our family... not someone whose gonna sit around on their backside eating curry
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and cricketplaya, there is no illusion us western raised women have.
Who doesnt want to be independant? its everyones damn right to be free and think for ourselves. Even in Islam we as individuals are encouraged to question, seek and learn. So why do silly lil boys like you think that this is an illusion?
No, its not... it something which is a right given to us by Allah. Which, people like urselves think you can take away. That my friend, is not called controlling... but rather bullying... more like jaahilpan
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i agree with u 101% there
amir, u a girl too?
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I think controlling men are revolting and dont know their limits. Women who want them are obviously under illusions that controlling means caring. Its not caring...its imprisonment because those women are apparently not mentally fit enough to handle being independant.
u see, most men don't feel comfortable in that situation. i know i wouldn't. why can't women just take care of the home, why take on more responsibilities and feel stressed at the end? take it easy, let us men worry.
hey u can go on a personal development retreat all you want, nobody stopping you.. but it does not necessarily have to involve working for someone.
who said anything about working? a woman can still be independent in other ways without having to work.
From my observation....men who do everything while their wives are totally dependent on them for every little thing expect their women to do what they are told and not "talk back"....these women have no say in any decisions being made.
This is why being independent is a must for us women. This doesnt mean she has to work...it simply means she has to have a brain and know how to do things for herself....otherwise she will be left in the dark.