im a pak born/raised female and from what i can understand from your question is that..for me..the husband will be the leader and the head of the family..he has to provide for me financially as well as undertake duties imposed on a husband by Shariah law..and i dont see this “dependence” as degrading or a burden..its a right given to me by ym faith to enjoy…and i do want to be the Queen of my house and not to work on a 9 to 5 job then come cook clean do the dishes etc ! :]
A woman’s disposition is suited for performing tasks inside the household,looking after kids etc..and a man works outside it..a balance which disturbed can really strain relations..
However,it goes without saying that education is crucial..when the going gets tough..the wife should be able to contribute to household finances,and support her husband, but not at the cost of sacrificing her time with kids!
I did not really understand the “controlling” point a lot..if you mean that if a man tries to control her every action or thought..in other words..treats her like a slave..well…no woman would tolerate such a person..i think :]
I would just like to add,that the tentacles of feminism havent gripped the female populace of Pakistan in general as yet which seeks to destroy a family as a unit..hope it stays that way insha’Allah!
excellent post :k:
cricketplaya2 …it seems to me that you used the wrong choice of word. controlling is not what you were trying to say…because for most…being controlling is a negative thing.
a man being the head of the household …the leader of the flock is probably what you meant…right?
I see nothing wrong with that.