may be that is the question that pakistani born and raised woman can answer? if so, allow me. I donot want a cotnrolling man and in my interaction with my peers through out my life nor do other women and girl beyond the age of 15 perhaps(and not all even then,and i donot come from an affulent background and i have seen through my life a mix of rural mindset and urban one) it is just socially they are frowned upon if they desire independence and equality. Try being brought up in a house where every time you talk back or lose temper your elders tell you how wrong it is especially for a girl. The entire shaping up of women is done by the means of telling them what are good traits and what are bad especially for women.It is wrong to be rude, it is wrong to lose control when angry but it shouldnt be especially for girls. Some women than take this on as Allah's honest truth and further go on to create households with similar advice and some who resent it and try to break free.