pakistani born and gifts

[parisbynight]

Re: pakistani born and gifts

@knjaved

OP is strange, at one side she says: she has no problem of money and she want to continue etc etc. and at the other end she get hurt form their comments.
I must say, OP is just letting her frustration out. She is not totally happy but pretending to be.
If Op wants this relation to continue, then she should find shoulder to cry, she has to except becoz she want to. Best option is to linger this relation to see more aspects of her in-laws to come out. We all can tell her by one or other experience.
Since Op relatives are now became in-laws so they are more superior than her family (thats pakistani culture), next ting is u all are raised in abroad so here ur in-laws now how much u must have (whether u have or not) so give n give n give , whatever they want (if u want to continue dear)
If ur fiancée is not taking ur side at this time then get ready for worse after shadi, becoz they know after shadi “ab tu larki pori hath me agai hai, ab larki bhi de gi n oski family bhi”.
Thats all practical things happening in pakistan. So good luck for future dear.
Its ur life and ur decision.

Of course..money and feeling are not related! At least for me. If they had never commented on gifts sent then would i have been hurt? Would i have stop sending birthdays gifts?..no..

My post was in the aim to see if anyone had experience such behaviour from relatives in pakistan as it appeared to me that it seemed common. And i got some good advices on how to deal with it and not let it get to heart.

For all those who have judged the relationship instead of reading properly into my post, i can only only say : do.not jump to conclusions. And never doubt a relationship because of a third party (ie in laws).

This topic can be closed if needed and i shall start a new topic debating the factors that would lead to end a relationship.