Pakistani-American or Pakistani Girl

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exactly! I think pakistani girls living abroad are well cultured and educated because they live in a diverse society and realize the importance of their country (religion/culture etc..) no offense.. girls in pakistan are great :)

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i was born and raised in england and to be honest i dont think im as aware as i shud be to pakistani culture...i mean sure we visited every year...have good family links...speak good urdu BUT just little stuff...like i dont know how to give guests tea in a 'pakistani' way whereas a girl from pak has been bought up with that and will have been doing that for a while...

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I get every other preference, but someone explain to me...what difference does it make if the wife majored in a particular field? If what you want is a career woman who understands what you go through, and work side by side with you, then any woman who is devoted to her career will do that, even if it's in a different field.

If what you want is a woman who will stay home and take care of family, which is fine, but why should her degree matter then?

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If I had a law firm then maybe I would want to work with my wife, so I want a lawyer as a wife.

A doctor makes a lot of money and tend to be very bright, so I want a doctor as a wife.

People in certain professions are respected more than others.

Maybe my family has a history of being engineers so I want to continue that with my wife.

There can be other reasons too.

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People in other professions can be bright, but not make as much money.

People should be respected regardless of what profession they are in.

I think you are extremely limiting yourself--but good luck with whatever you do.

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you sound very picky.

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now you sound like a snob!

good luck mate you need it!

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Thanks people should understand this!

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:hmmm:

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It's like looking for a needle in a haystack!

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^ I hope he has lots of qualities as well (and I don’t just mean money + education)..

I have come across worse before tho. Someone on the Ummah forum was asking for a girl who (amongst other things) had to be able to cook to** ‘masterchef standard’** :smack:

And to think desi parents are usually moaning that girls are too fussy..

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So do u want a wife who will be a good earner, is that what u r saying?

ufff ye syllabus
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I agree people in all professions should be respected but they are not equally respected and that is a reality.

I see being picky as one of the advantages of an arrange marriage.

I understand that we all can't have everything the way we want.

I will keep an open mind.

Is there a way I can do a poll on this so I have a better idea what people think.

Thanks for the advice.

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A girl is not a pizza you order with the toppings of your choice :smack:

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Maybe you’re not understanding what a real marriage is all about and maybe its too soon for you to be married.

Marriage in reality deals very little with professions and engineering. It actually deals with how much respect you have for one another and how compatible you are on a personal level. If your wife reads these posts, I believe she will be offended so if I were you I would ask to have them removed as soon as you tie the knot.

People in certain professions are more respected then others ONLY in circles where its not as common. A doctor is usually revered as God in circles where there arent any to begin with. A lawyer is looked at as a catch only among people who have never seen one before.

As for money, you dont need to be a doctor to make a lot of money sweetheart…you just need to be smart. And if a medical degree is all the proof you need to declare someone “bright”, then I guess there are a lot of not-bright people on GS (including yourself) arent there? Ya hear that teachers, architects, programmers, accountants, etc? None of you are bright.

Here is something to ponder:

MARRIAGE :

***noun ***1.the social institution under which a man and woman establish their decision to live as husband and wife by legal commitments, religious ceremonies, etc.2.the state, condition, or relationship of being married; wedlock: *a happy marriage. *3.the legal or religious ceremony that formalizes the decision of a man and woman to live as husband and wife, including the accompanying social festivities: *to officiate at a marriage. *4.a relationship in which two people have pledged themselves to each other in the manner of a husband and wife, without legal sanction: *trial marriage; homosexual marriage. *5.any close or intimate association or union: *the marriage of words and music in a hit song. *6.**a formal agreement between two companies or enterprises to combine operations, resources, etc., for mutual benefit; merger.**7.a blending or matching of different elements or components: *The new lipstick is a beautiful marriage of fragrance and texture. *8.Cards. a meld of the king and queen of a suit, as in pinochle. Compare royal marriage.9.a piece of antique furniture assembled from components of two or more authentic pieces.10.Obsolete. the formal declaration or contract by which act a man and a woman join in wedlock.

Your criteria has nothing to do with the actual definition of marriage and that should tell you something.

I think number 6 describes your marriage perfectly well.

Good luck…I am sure you will be fine!

kuch alag si Nazmen
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lollll at the definition! :cb:

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I agree. I dont think you should compromise and also most people who doth protest are probably not Doctors Engineers or Lawyers :p

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^^ I agree. :chai:

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^ What do you agree with? :chai:

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withyou :)

Khushka?