You dont sound like someone who was born and raised here, Ill be frank with you.
ditto!
PW, to answer your question.. I don't think you should go with a Pakistani-American girl. I can't say anything about Pakistani girls since I wasn't raised there, but like PS said, I don't know what an American girl who has a great career and everything else in life going for her could gain from this marriage. At least to a girl from Pakistan, you could offer a career in America.. (I'm not saying that all Pakistani girls are attracted to that, but there could be some educated ones that are..) As far as the mentality goes, IMO it's not like your mentality matches that of a Pakistani-American anyway (sorry, but that's what it sounds like), so there'll be an adjustment to be made either way.