How do you measure someone's love and commitment before you get married?We find out how much love and commitment is there after marriage, this is why I did not bring it up.
My main question is for someone in my situation is it better to get married to someone in the states or back home in Pakistan.
You dont sound like someone who was born and raised here, Ill be frank with you.
You sound like the many men I ran into that werent much to look at but were looking for a fair, smart and professional female. Education is supposed to help you grow and become a better person...how has it helped you? I dont see it at all. I have yet to see one non-superficial or attractive trait in your posts.
Marriage is not a way to increase your personal assets. If your family is also planning on demanding jehez because of all the money they had to spend on you...I have no idea what to even say to you.
Lets look at it this way:
What makes YOU a great catch besides your law degree, which doesnt mean much to a Pathan doctor because she is bringing home her own paycheck????? Since she is a doctor and making her own money, your cash is of no use or value to her. Financially, you would make no difference in her life.
So aside from demanding, superficial and materialistic........what other great qualities do you possess that a professional woman - that already makes her own money and doesnt need you for that - might find attractive?
Thats the list women who have it all going for themselves will be most interested in.
This Pathan Doctor that has all the wonderful qualities you want...she doesnt have to sell herself to you...there are toooooo many like you in the US but not many like her.
Its the other way around...:)