I haven't read the full thing but I think people need to give this guy a break- just because someone knows exactly what type of person they might be compatible with doesn't mean they are being materialistic. Infact, I commend such attitude because these people have thought about what they want in their partners and are not afraid to admit it, unlike some guys (and girls) who say "Ammi apki marzi.." and then blame others for the rest of their lives.
To Pashtun- I think it's best to look within your network first since you have been to school here, and you would have met many people during that time. If not, ask your friends to look around. There are plenty of educated, religious girls in US who have their priorities straight and won't need to change to adjust themselves. Also, you would be able to meet and (hopefully) know the person beforehand.
As you said, it depends on the person- but I think it's wise to look in US first. Good Luck! =)